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writes:How can it not hurt so much? My boyfriend and I have tried to do anal and it hurts alot. He really wants to do it cause he has never done it before but how or what can we do to not have it hurt so much. He gets it in a little way and then it starts to hurt. I have wanted to try it but I am scarred it is really going to hurt me for along time but I want to do it with him cause he has always wanted to try but it just hurts to much. Does anyone have any advice?
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reader, penta +, writes (28 August 2007):
 Lube and lots of it. Plus relax. Plus be aroused on other fronts. Plus take anonymous' advice: push against it like you're having a bowel movement. It relaxes you in the right ways and keeps it from hurting.
Check out this site: http://www.blowfish.com/catalog/guides/anal.html -- it has some good advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2007): Anal-sex won't hurt if it's done right, and you can't rush anal-sex anymore than you should be rushing vaginal-sex. In vaginal intercourse you need to give a woman's vagina time to open up before a penis or other object is inserted into the vaginal opening. And when you do, or someone else gives you,anal-sex, You need to learn first to let your anal muscles relax. Yes!, Yes!, Yes!,Do use lots of lubricant upon your anal area, and upon your finger, or any object that you'll be inserting into you rectum. No!, No!, No!, Don't start with anything larger than your finger,as a penis is much too large to start with. And do this anal,finger insertion daily when you showering. After a while you'll learn how to relax your anal muscles. Then you can increase the the size of your anal-toy, and then it's goodbye to those anal hurts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2007): my gyno gave me a tip once when doing an anal exam, she said to push against her finger like I was having a bowel movement, it worked but I haven't tried it with a penis...let me know if it works...and use a lube made for that.
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (23 August 2007):
 I tried this recently and it hurt so decided if it hurts then it aint right for me!!
If in doubt, keep it out!
Sex is not about being in pain and if you not keen then just say no.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2007): Well, honestly the ONLY way it is not going to hurt, and that you are going to be relaxed enough for your anus to not shrink up, is for you to get very, very drunk. And trust me, it will not hurt 1 little bit. Try it..you'll be thanking me.
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reader, supersquirrel +, writes (23 August 2007):
 LOTS of lubricant and you must be very relaxed. seeing as you've had bad experiences with it before, that may make you inclined to feel tense..so he should encourage you to relax, maybe a back massage first? i found that helped.
hope this helps x
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reader, flower girl +, writes (23 August 2007):
 You need to be really relaxed because if you are concerned and worried that it is going to hurt you will tense up and you should probably try lube, it will hurt the first time the same as virginal usually does but you get past that, i took a couple of attemps for me and i think i was a little bit tipsy when i done it the first time.
Take care.xx.
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