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writes:I'm 18 years old and have never had a boyfriend or a first kiss. I'm interested in beginning to date or finding a boyfriend. I'm beginning college next summer and am hoping for a fresh start.I need beauty advice in particular since I am lacking 100% in that department. Don't say confidence either, because I don't walk around talking bad about myself or looking down on myself. I'm just being honest. It's part of the reason I haven't ever been asked out.Any advice?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (2 November 2011):
 I suggest you go to a beauty salon or make-up store and ask if they do make-overs. You should start with a visit to the hair salon and check out new hairstyles and ask the hairdresser what might look good on you, and then consider different options. Do this before you sit in the chair to actually cut it or dye it, do some searching around and asking opinions before you make a drastic move.
Then when you have your hair styled (or leave it as it is if thats whats most flattering on you) get a makeover with make-up at a salon. They often do them at a set price, or give them for free if you buy the products etc. Just ask around. Or google make-up tutorials if you can't go to a salon.
Get your nails done perhaps?
Buy a corset or hold-in pants etc. Wear them when you go out on town or to dress up, as a good corset will do wonders with your curves and waist line. Buy a good one, not a cheap one. You can find them online if there's no professional corsets sold in stores near you.
Wear high heels. They make your legs look firmer and make your butt look perkier. They are also feminine.
Avoid the hooker-look. Don't wear too much make-up or reveal too much skin, and wear your heels and shoes at appropriate times. Sexy pumps are for a night out, not for class. Red lipstick too. Know the difference between evening makeup and day makeup.
Buy a good perfume.
Practice mannerisms and flirting body language. Practice your smile in the mirror. Practice taking a complement (you're to smile, say thank you, and hold eye contact with the one who gave the compliment).
It's all about practice and learning how to flirt and learning to recognize when someone flirts with you. That just takes practice, and you'll fail plenty of times before you succeed, but that's how it is. Only a lucky few hit goal on the first shot.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (1 November 2011):
 If your trying to lose weight and diets are hard for you i find taking small steps work best. I lost alot of weight by just making really small changes which really added up. Most people scare themselfs by jumping straight into a diet and being so strict it puts them off and all motivation goes out of the window. If you make a small change each day or week whatever pase your happy with you will be able to cut down graudally and lose weight. First concentrait on what you drink try and drink as much water as you can and replace any fizzys for diet fizzys. Try and fit in an hour or half an hour at frist of exercise every day. Limit yourself to two treats a day and try replace things like chipss and choclate with fruit or wheat bars. Then move on to your main meals once you have done that and try and cut down portion size and swap things like maybe if you have crisps then swap them for a jacket potatoe etc. I know you didn't ask for dieting advice but just thought id give you a couple of tips :) Anyway good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI want to lose weight of course, which I'm working on. It's mostly my diet that gets me. I binge eat all of the time, which I know is unhealthy.
Um...honestly, I think I need a new look. When I was younger, in my high school years I started out being a total cake face with lots of makeup, then got to a point where I just didn't care anymore, then it's whatever.
Sometimes I dress up other times i don't.
Physically, I'm not attractive, especially in the face area. I can admit that because it's true. I don't walk around looking down on myself or let anyone know what i think. I'm definitely average at best, but I know in reality guys view me as less than average which is fine. People of all looks are able to get girlfriends and boyfriends.
I don't know if you need a description but I'm 5'2, dark brown eyes, dark brown, curly hair that is about shoulder length when worn curly & when worn straight it's to the middle of my back. Brown skin, I wear braces but I've been told I look good with braces since they don't make me look awkward. I wear glasses, but I feel they add a little character to me although I alternate with contacts if I'm going out.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (1 November 2011):
I went through a stage where i really wanted to perk up my looks because i never used to where makeup nice clothes and as for hair i would normanally just drag a brush through it and that would be me done.
I can say that the way to look nice is to find your own style, look at what body shape you are and find clothes that will match your body shape and most importantly ones that you like.
Heres a website with more advice on body shapes:
http://www.bodyshapefashionadvice.com/
Next is makeup well ovbiously you want something everyday and not soemthing that will make you look like your going out to the clubs when your just turning up for college, so look at your features on your face which ones would you say are your best? If its your eyes maybe look at light shades of eye shadow or different styles of eyeliner to try. If its your lips then maybe look at different colurs of lip stick, (also like k_c100 said don't put loads and loads on). Once you find a style you like look up tutorials on youtube of how to apply it.
And lastly hair, well it all depends what goes with your face shape, also to look different change the style you have your hair in so then people will notice, for instance if you have straight hair, give it a go at having it curly. If you have short hair maybe get extensions to look different.
Also heres a list of different types of hair styles so you get the drift, look at them and see which ones you like.
http://www.thehairstyler.com/hairstyles
Goood Luck x
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (1 November 2011):
 Ok well beauty wise - men like girls that look natural, so dont try and wear some wacky make-up or pile loads and loads of make-up on your face, that wont work.
I have never had any problems with men and I have always looked after myself beauty wise, so here is what I do, hopefully it might help you.
1. Cleanse, tone and moisturise. This is very important - buy a good facial wash, toner and moisturiser and do this twice a day every day.
2. Pluck (or have them waxed if you prefer) your eyebrows, not too thin but so they are neat and tidy. Any hair between the two eyebrows above your nose needs to be removed completely.
3. Buy a good shampoo and conditioner, and an intensive hair treatment once a week. Shiny healthy looking hair always attracts men, so keep it in good condition. Have regular hair cuts every 6 weeks or 2 months.
4. Have your nails done or at least keep them tidy - no chipped nail varnish, broken nails etc.
5. Style your hair daily - you dont have to do anything fancy, but if your hair is not naturally straight or curly and looks unruly then either straighten it or curl it so it looks stylish
6. Wear perfume. Find one you like and use it daily, you never know when you are going to meet a guy and smelling good is always a winner
7. Wear make-up. This is the tricky bit, finding the balance between looking natural whilst still wearing make-up. Pick a foundation that is close to your natural skin tone, nothing orange! Learn to apply it well, blend it into your hairline and under the chin to avoid lines. You dont want your neck to be a different colour to your face! A little bronzer is good if you are not naturally tanned, and blusher is key - it makes you look more awake and youthful. Pick a pink or orange based blusher based on your skin tone. A little concealer around the eyes is fine but no eyeshadow during the day. Keep lips natural - a nice pale pink lip gloss is fine. Mascara makes your eyes look bigger and men love girls with nice eyes so find a good mascara that make your eyelashes nice and long, always black never any other colour. If you need help picking make-up then ask someone in the store to help you. And always buy the most expensive make-up you can afford, cheap make-up generally makes you look cheap and doesnt last so buy the best you can afford.
8. Look after your body - eat well and exercise. Men like women that look after themselves, so if you are overweight and out of shape then that is never going to be appealing, try and be fit and healthy and take care of your body.
That should about do it on the beauty front - if you sort all that out you will be on your way! Clothes are important too - dress to suit your body. Dont be too revealing or slutty, only reveal either boobs or legs, never both. Dont follow trends too closely, just because it is fashionable doesnt mean it will suit you, so dont be a slave to trends. Be feminine in your clothes, dresses are always good, and make sure your oufits are fitted (i.e. hug your shape) but not too tight they make you look worse. Again, buy the best you can afford - cheap clothes make you look cheap.
Make eye contact with guys you like, smile lots, always walk with your head held high and never look at the floor, be confident, and most of all have fun - there is nothing more attractive to a guy than a girl who clearly knows how to have fun and is a happy person.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (1 November 2011):
 Honey, you don't need to go around talking bad around yourself because if you feel you are 100% lacking in the looks department- it SHOWS, trust me, it seeps through everything, the way you walk, talk, smile, react to jokes/critiques/compliments, approach people, etc. It's like you had not showered for a week, no matter how you act ( and I use "act " in the meaning of pretending, playing a role ) - everybody will be able to catch a whiff, and it's a big turn off.
Also, to be honest, finding someone is also a matter of coincidence, of being in the right time at the right place,... if this has not happened yet, don't worry, you are only 18 and it does not mean it will never happen, - and anyway all you can do about it is just to be social, meet people, and hope for the best. Don't forget to have fun and enjoy yourself in the meantime ( don't hang out with people or go to places that you dislike JUST to catch a guy ! ), so that at least it is a no-loss situation.
Of course, though, there is always room for improvement and there's nothing wrong in working your potential to the max and being the prettiest you can be, and many Aunts, I think, will be glad to give you beauty tips if you tell us what's the problem .
Help us target the trouble area, what is it that you want to improve, hair, skin, weight... ?
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