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writes:So well...when i was a little girl, i used to wake up earlier then everyone else, so a friend of the family, around my dads age would come and take me in the woods to look at the animals and he used to tell me that we had to hide and stay quite so that we could see them so i would do as i was told, hide nd stay quite , then he would but his hands all over me, toutch me, molest me...i was only 8 but remeber everything perfectly then i left the country and didnt return there for years. When i went back i was thirteen and i saw him again , i remebered it all but acted as if nothing and he didnt do anything to me either that year, then when i was forteen, he would come to the house and when were alone he would always hold me tight against him, toutch my breasts... The next year when i was fifteen it was the same and one time it got realy bad, he almost raped me...he put his hands under my skirt, under my bra, i could feel is heavy breath over me..he slowly kissed my back and my neck,tightenned his grip around me, held me agianst him, i was so scared i could hardly breath. after that i felt so frican dirty as if i had been infected, i didnt even cry or scream or do anything, i didnt even try to stop him, i feel so much like its partly my fault. i can never have boyfriends like all my other friends, i dnt realy understand y but i think its related to all this, i get drunk in order to have a little fun with guys its the only way...wat schould i do?? nd please dnt tell me to talk to my parents cuz i never will, i need to find another way to heal nd i have never told aliving soul about this!!
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reader, RON_499  +, writes (5 September 2008):
 well this is a veryyyyyy serious situation u got here.listen you should tell him or rather threaten him that if he ever does anything like that to you again you will tell the police.dont actually tell the police but just threaten him.hes taking advantage of you thinking that you wont do anything.and don't ever think that like its your fault or something.i recommend that you do this as soon as possible before he gets impatient and ends up putting you in trouble by getting you pregnant or something.just have faith in yourself and dont back off even if he threatens you.remember you are not at fault here.i will pray for you.do tell me what happens
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reader, starismine1 +, writes (5 September 2008):
 I believe that what this man did to you that are sexual molestation, although awful, are not what emotionally cripples you. It is the fact that all this happened to you and nobody in your family seemed to care or notice. And, this man was able to make you feel bad about yourself. If you could take away the whole sexual aspect of what he did and replace what he did with, let's say, making you eat an entire box of cookies till you threw up every time he visited you when you didn't want to, while no one else cared he was doing this, and you felt disgusted with yourself for eating that box of cookies against your will, you'd feel pretty lousy about that too, right? But you wouldn't let it make you feel like a disgusting pathetic person. So start seeing it as not about the sexual molestation. See it just as abuse forcing you to do something against your will. The real horror is that the people you love pretended not to see what was happening. And that is where all your pain is. Molestation is a difficult thing to deal with so I strongly suggest you get professional counseling. In the meantime, if you separate the sexual aspect of it from the equation, and see it as just something you were being forced to do against your will, you are going to find a way to come to terms with it and not let it stop you from having a healthy relationship with a guy who is not making you date him, touch him and love him against your will. Don't punish yourself for something someone else did to you, you are deserving of love and intimacy. Any one can have this happen to them and its alot more common than you think. It doesn't make you a bad person. You'd certainly not think any less of yourself if he was forcing you to eat cookies against your will. Also, next time you see him verbally confront him about what he did, it will be very freeing, and who cares if it upsets anyone. You deserve to let him know he can't force you to do anything you don't want to do. Tell him you'll call the police the next time he touches you, he will disappear quickly from your life when he realizes he can't control you.
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