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*rinaanne
writes:Me and my ex- boyfriend broke up about 3 months ago and right afterwards he got a new girlfriend, that only lasted 2 weeks and now he has another girlfriend and this has been about a month now, but the thing is he wants to be "friends" but everytime we go out to a party or something we always end up sleeping in the same bed and it usually ends up with us having sex. he tells me that it doesn't mean anything its just sex. do you think that this is true. i believe that there is a reason we keep having sex and theres a reason why he still wants to be friends, im not over him yet what so ever. i still love him the same as the day we met 2 1/2 years ago. so my question to you is- is there still a chance? and does he love me still or is he just using me for sex? when we do hangout it usually ends up with us fighting about something and ending up with me crying and he still comforts me until i stop. the reason we broke up was because i was texting another guy. i realized what i had did after it all happened and now i wish i could just take everything back.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (11 August 2010):
 Excellent answer Jmtmj! I couldn't agree more. He knows what strings he can pull with you to get you in bed, and he does it, all the while he has another girlfriend...
He's a player, and now a cheater. Get out of this. Give yourself some time to heal and get over him. The more you keep this up, the more you're prolonging the grieving process. Time for a clean break.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (11 August 2010):
 I think you already know the answer to your question, but are hoping it's not true.
Jmtmj has spelled it out for you and I have to agree with him.
The ex has told you it doesn't mean anything; it's just sex. What could be plainer? However, you're right in thinking there's a reason you keep having sex: it IS just so he can use your body for sex.
Do yourself a favor and stop seeing him!
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (11 August 2010):
 "he tells me that it doesn't mean anything its just sex. do you think that this is true."
Yes, yes, one thousand times yes... The absolute worst thing you can do is have sex with him because you are holding onto some false hope that it means more and that you'll get back together...
He told you it doesn't mean anything and that its just sex... Its black and white staring you in the face... there is no shade of grey here. Think I'm wrong? Try asking him out or having the relationship talk and see what happens... (BTW I hope that I'm wrong and he professes his love and desire to date you again, no, really I do... but I'm just calling it how I see it)
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