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26-29,
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writes:I'm now talking to this guy who is a couple months younger than me. We aren't dating but I get really jealous when he flirts with other girls and he says it's just his personality. It really ticks me off knowing that he knows I like him and I get jealous. He has also said he "doesn't think he should date me if I get jealous and we aren't even dating yet" (we've been talking for a few months now) and that he still likes me though. I really dont get him. Am I doing something wrong by feeling jealous when he flirts with other girls and not me when he has told me he likes me multiple times??
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (27 September 2012):
 He likes you, sure- but he likes other girls too. In other words, he likes you, but not enough to choose you as his one and only ( which, then again, at his age is hardly surprisisng ).
If you are jealous you are jealous , you feel what you feel, wrong or right, it's not that if we tell you " stop this very moment being jealous ! " , you will .
But I totally get his point when he says , what's all the fuss about, we are not even dating yet , we are not a couple.
He does not say that it's " wrong " that you are jealous, he says that you are not entitled to demand an exclusivity that he has never dreamt of offering you.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (27 September 2012):
 I agree with Karlos. He is young and he probably doesn't even realize what he is doing. He's probably just enjoying the moment.
If it upsets you, I would tell him in a nice way. That way he knows your feelings. Sometimes guys can be totally oblivious to a girl's feelings unless you tell them. If he continues, just realize he is still very young, and like Karlos said...he enjoys it too much to be with just one girl. It doesn't mean he doesn't like you, but he may not be ready to be with just you yet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2012): He sounds like he enjoys flirting and the attention of other girls too much to just be with one girl.
Also just because you've been talking for a few months, doesn't mean you are exclusively dating each other. In his eyes he is single and free to do as he pleases, which he's right. Its not his fault you get jealous, you like him, you're bound to get jealous.
Maybe you should hang out with someone else if he isn't wanting to be with you, and its ticking you off that he's flirting with other girls.
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