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writes:Iv'e just turned sixteen and im still a virgin most of my friends arent. Does this make me weird? help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2009): I know what you're saying because I'm about to be 18, and majority of my friends are non-virgin but no you are not weird or anything to be honest some days I'm just too proud to be a virgin because they have been hit and quit by so many nasty lil boys who just use them for sex anyway sometimes, and I want a boy to cherish my virginity, and just not hit it, and quit it.
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reader, vamp-gal +, writes (18 May 2009):
 Heyy!
Alright, at my school in my year right now there are 2 people pregnant and a few years ago when I was in year 9 and another girl was in year 8 she got pregnant. One got aborted, the other 2 (in my year) are keeping theirs.
Basically, which would you rather 1) Not being able to go out and live your teenage life because you have a child to take care of or 2) Wait until you're ready to have a child and loose your virginity to the person you love.
I'm 15 (16 in a few months) and I couldn't even imagine loosing my virginity at this age. When I look around me and see so many people who have, I think what has gotton into the world. I mean now you can get pregnant (if you don't use contraception, if it doesn't work sometimes even if you do) STIs/STDs and so many others that fall into that last catagory. Yes you may feel like the odd one out right now, but think about it, when everyone around you is seeing their life crash before their eyes, and you're still able to do the things you want to do who's going to be more sensable?
Also you shouldn't be pressured into doing something you don't want to do. It doesn't sound like anyone is, but don't do it just to fit in with everyone else. Be different and wait until you're ready and do it with someone you really love and someone who respects you.
So no, I have to say that just because you're 16 and are a virgin, it doesn't make you weird. Honestly I have little respect for people who waste it on people they think they love, and right now I have the greatest amount of respect for you for deciding to wait. And I'm sure I'm not the only one.
Hope this helps!
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reader, pebble +, writes (18 May 2009):
 I was 18 and my boyfriend was 21, and we're not weird at all. We're a normal couple. We were just sensible enough not to give it away to someone who was using us and didn't really care. :)
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reader, AuntAnya +, writes (18 May 2009):
You should be proud!! I'm 15, and the friends I know who have lost their virginity are classed as sluts! Just think, your more likely to get an std!! Anyway I agree with what the other two put!! You should keep your virginity until you feel is right for you, so that you don't regret it!!!
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reader, Ashtarochi +, writes (18 May 2009):
Don't feel pressurised into having sex cause everyone else is doing it. You'll be glad years from now that you waited instead of jumping in with the rest of the crowd. Becoming sexually active at a young age increases your risk of cervical cancer, so think of the long term benefits of saving yourself for the special someone.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (18 May 2009):
 I agree with TasteofIndia.
Nothing wrong with being a virgin at 16.. AT all. I was 18, almost 19 when I had sex the first time, we had dated little over 9 months before we did have sex. I don't regret it, even so I wish I would have waited a year or two more, mostly because I felt pressured to do it.
Kudos to you!
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reader, jayne_staaa +, writes (18 May 2009):
please dont rush it ul regret it so much i regret losing mine the way i did, i lost mine at 15 to a horrible boyfriend and all my maytes were planning their first times and how it was guna be so special and i just thought god if only id waited longer i could have been made to feel reli great and respected. ur not weird one bit !
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (18 May 2009):
 If you are weird, then I was weirder - I lost mine at 19. Being a virgin just means that you're classy and holding out for someone who deserves it and is worth you. Don't feel bad, don't be ashamed. Most of your buddies in 10 years will say they regretted losing theirs so early anyway.
I admire you for not falling to pressure and having sex with any ol' buffoon just to lose it. Go you!!
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