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writes:im ginger, ugly and fat im 19 and i ust cant get girls to like me they never talk to me and the ones that do talk to me are the ones that just do it as a joke any help please
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reader, Lost in the Malestom  +, writes (12 December 2010):
 I'm gonna throw a gay hat into the ring. I used to be "hefty" and noone spoke to me. I think the main reason was that I FELT that I was unattractive, and people felt that from me, especialy those who I wanted to attract. As soon as I dropped a few pounds, people really started talking to me, because I FELT more confident. It was like magic. I'm thinner now, happier, and what most makes me happy, in a long term relationship with someone I love. That being said, there is someone out there for everyone, even if you remained a little overweight, but trust me (and my LONG search) they will be harder to find. Besides, if you do find that special someone, you want to be with them as long as possible, so being not overweight and healthy helps with that, right? As for the ginger part. That doesn't matter at all, in fact a lot of people find gingers very attractive. By the way, only one erson can say they are ugly, and that's you. As soon as you are happy with yourself, you can let your beauty shine. I know that sounded cheesy, but it's true!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2010): hii...
first of all, i want you to know that you are most definitely NOT ugly. it might sound kind of weird for me to say that when i've never actually seen you or anything, but i know that it's true. God does not make ugly people; all of His creations are beautiful in their own way.
i agree with what everyone else has said before me. while you can't really do anything about your hair color (unless you try dying it...buuut since you're a ginger, i'm not sure how well that would work out...hahaa) or freckles (which some girls do find incredibly sexii...me being one of them), but you can do something about your weight. get a good workout plan and diet going (but make sure it's a healthy diet...some of those things are just too risky to even be worth it), and those extra pounds will start shedding in no time.
HOWEVER, there is always the option of just loving and accepting yourself exactly the way that you are. because i'm sure that somewhere out there in the world, there is a wonderful, beautiful, amazing girl who is going to do the same thing. there's a someone for everyone. yours will come when the time is right. ")
but please don't think you're too ugly to be loved. like i said before, God doesn't make ugly people. and everybody is worthy of love. ")
good luck, and God bless,
~sarsar~
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2010): Ginger hair and freckles are sexy. Fat is not. You need to loose weight because health is attractive.
Have you thought about a diet and gym routine.
Don't let being Ginger hold you back!!! However if you loose weight and tone up I can guarantee girls will start to look at you.
Good luck!
Keep us posted
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reader, MsClara  +, writes (7 December 2010):
Look, red hair is individual and trust me, it can be very appealing, but women don't usually fall for a man because of their hair colour:). If you're overweight, you can change this by going on a healthy eating plan. You obviously have some motivation. You can try to dress more fashionably. But in the end its not about any of the things you said but self confidence. When someone feels attractive, then they instantly seem more attractive to others, just because of their inner sense of self worth. Everyone deserves to be loved - but obviously the people you're around are cruel bullies.
Look to your strengths, forget about people like this, and live your life for you. Take the initiative to make yourself feel and look better and you'll see the rewards.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (7 December 2010):
 Hi
you are probably not as ugly as you think you are, i think a lot of people think have too low an opinion of themselves in this way. ginger is ok. and if you are overweight then you CAN solve this. i am sorry for you that you feel unlovable. i hope you have got good friends and or family who can help you to feel better about yourself. you are only young and as you get older i am sure you will naturally become more confident anyway. nobody is too ugly to love as long as you have a good personality and treat girls nicely this will get you a long way. trust me xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2010): Firstly, nothing wrong with red hair so forget about that part. If you are actually over weight then get a good diet and exercise programme going.
Once you start to look better you'll feel better and hopefully start to gain some confidence. Calling yourself "ugly" won't get you anywhere.
Make little changes in your life and you'll see an improvement. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2010): Firstly, nothing wrong with red hair so forget about that part. If you are actually over weight then get a good diet and exercise programme going.
Once you start to look better you'll feel better and hopefully start to gain some confidence. Calling yourself "ugly" won't get you anywhere.
Make little changes in your life and you'll see an improvement. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2010): no body is to ugly to love . I think you should get some couceling on developing some self cofidence :) xx
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reader, Sunshine8000 +, writes (7 December 2010):
 There are a lot of cute red head guys in the entertainment industry. Give it some time, you'll find women that find you attractive. Carry yourself well and develop confidence and that is what the ladies will find attractive. Don't worry about being gorgeous ,s ome "ugly" guys are sexy as hell. For me, Hugh Grant (no offense) is an example of this-he is sexy as hell, because he takes care of hisself and has confidence, but is not conventionally good looking. Good luck!
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (7 December 2010):
Mate it sounds like you need to develop some self confidence and start seeing the positive things in yourself rather than what you think are negative things.
You have red hair. Big deal. Yes some kids use this a means to bully, and even some adults, but the fact is, there are plenty of women who think red hair is hot and will see it as one of your individual traits that they would never change.
You think you are ugly and fat. I'm willing to bet you don't look like you think you do. And as for the fat - easily changed - just commit yourself to making a few changes to your diet and doing a little more exercise. Stick with that for a few weeks and you'll start noticing a change.
I BET when you start being a bit more healthier, loose a bit of fat you will start to feel much more confident. When you do, go out and buy some new clothes. You'll get even more confidence. And when you do, girls will start to see that confidence, they'll want to hang around with you. You will be someone people want to be friends with, and a guy girls want to be their boyfriend.
School can be a tough experience if you get bullied or go through it feeling like crap. But a fact is, you can't keep feeling a victim because you'll go through you adult life feeling exactly the same and be treated in just the same way.
Only you can change your life, and you have the power to do this. Set yourself some goals on how you're going to improve your life. You'll look back on how you are now, and your past, and you'll see just how easy it was.
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