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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2010): whoa! your moving way to fast... two weeks?????? dang.. i dont know.. i cant tell you what to do or anything... but i just think you should wait.. and telling him you love him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): i think that you should wait because ive been with my boyfriend for 7 going on 8 months and i havent did nothing as far as kiss him and talk about sex u should not listen to ur friends if u r ready 2 b a mother n ready 2 protect urself from many diseases then u shuld wait
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): You should wait. 2 weeks of being with him and your already doing all that. You just sounds like a slag. I'm 15 and been with my boyfriend 4 months and we are only just talking about having sex. If you have any self respect and morals then wait. This lad is probably a player. Dumped his nine month girlfriend for you? That's nothing to be proud off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2008): yes!!! You are rushing things... how little do you think of yourself? Aren't you worth waiting for? At weeks... are you kinding? I was IN LOVE with about a million boys between the age of 10 and 15 and it was going to last forever... love and being a teenager is one thing... SEX and being a teenager is totally another thing.... I say WAIT!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2008): Ya u are moving to fast ! u have only been going out for 2 weeks . u shouldnt even say i love you to each other. younger people get hormones confused with love . my bff just had sex like a week ago and she was only going out with this guy for like 2 weeks also . and she says i love you to every guy she dates and i think its caz shes affraid to be alone the rest of her life and shes only 15 !
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2007): personally i think you are rushing into things, you have only been with him two weeks and you are already thinking of having sex. he could geninually like you but then he could only think of you as "easy". if i were you give a few more months then see how you feel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2007): No, I dont think u should do it i have been dating my G/F for 11 months and we stgill havnt had sex if u really want to have sex that bad then wait atleast 3 months b4 u have sex because if he really lves u he can wait and if he doesnt want to wait then he isnt worth ot ok belive me on this one..
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2007): Yes. I think you should wait a bit longer. You are also below the legal age as well. Do not let your friends bully you into something you are not ready for. A good website to look at is "sexwise"
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2007): hey I have a simulair situation see my gf and i always mess around and every thing and we have been going out for six months and we have just now started to talk about sex so if i was u i would wait cuz most guys that age all they have on thier mind is sex so if u say no he should accept ur morals and not push u
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2007): i think that if you wanna do that just do it.but no about your friend but for you.if you love him and if he loves you its ok.i have sex when i was 15 with my bf and now we are still together(i am 17 now).it was beautiful.but i had sex 1 month later not 2 weeks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2007): hiya... it ended up that wen didnt have sex... n a couple of weeks after he finished with me and got back wif his ex!!!!!!.... i cant believe i was thinking of havin sex with him... o well! just glad that everyone gave me thier advice and stopped me from makin a biiig mistake... thank you all!!!!!!!! xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2007): As a 21 year old male I say don't. You've only been seeing this kid for two weeks. My first girlfriend I had sex with was 17 as I was and we were dating for about 6 months. It isn't all that big of a deal to say no. And if he doesn't respect your decision then he doesn't really care about you. I know a lot of people that didn't have sex with their partner until after a year or so of datin.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2007): im 13 and theres this boy that i went out with. I love him still but he has another girlfriend and i know he thinks of me all the time.and i want to have sex with him. we talked about it and he told me when i was ready to just to tell him..
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2007): your not in love its only been two weeks!!! if you sleep with him you will regret it
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reader, love-him  +, writes (13 May 2007):
 iya chick, you reckon u love this guy, cos he finished his bird for ya? babe ow do u no he just wasnt bored of her, or she didnt give him sex, there could have many other reason to why he finished her, dont make him make u think it was cos of you cos there cud b a possibility that it wasnt. n if u do end up having sex, wait til about 2/3 months cos if it gets out (people start talkin) then they may call u names. chick id wait if i was u x x x
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reader, missprinsess2u  +, writes (13 May 2007):
 I agree your young and its only been two weeks how do you know if your in love sex is a special thing and u should save it for someone u truly madly love trust me sex might not seem big now but in the future will regret
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reader, sophiie +, writes (13 May 2007):
your 15 years old!
this is just another silly teenage crush.. everyone gets it
save your self untill your truley madley in loove with someone, when your older.. dont rush into things
if you decide you are going to (which i recommend yu dont) make sure your on the pill and hes wearing a condomx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2007): I'm 15 and sorry to say, I don't understand you or your "friends." Why would you even consider doing this? Sex is an emotional event, and you WILL regret losing your virginity to some sex crazed boy in the heat of the moment. However, this is just my opinion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2007): Don´t do it, really, listen to the advice of rational adults over sex mad teenagers!!! (this is not meant to be offensive, I am only 23 and was not that long ago one myself), that is why I know it is best to wait. Experiencing all these things too young isn´t healthy, as it can warp your views on sex and morals, and you´ll only realise how much better it would have been to wait, when you meet someone really special, and make the mature decision of when is the right time to have sex for the first time.
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reader, jtaunton5410 +, writes (11 May 2007):
 Ok I lost my virginity when I was 17 to my boyfriend of 4 years. If you yourself think you are ready then that is your choice, however are you ready to do it with a guy you have only been with for 2 weeks? You said he broke up with his GF of 9 months to be with you. Are you really sure he wont do that to you in 9 months. just be careful. Make sure you know the guy and he wants to be with you as a person, not you as a sex toy. Quiz him. Bring up a conversation about sex and tell him that you dont want to do it until you are married. see what his reaction is. Good luck. and by the way it hurts really bad and you bleed the first time. it kind of feels like your vagina is ripping and burning, so make sure you really love the guy for him to put you through that pain.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2007): your 15!!! whats the rush, you guys are moving WAAAY TO FAST in my opinion, your just kids, your not married and how do you know he wont leave you too and find another girlfreind just like he did the last...there is plenty of time for stuff like that.i hope you make the right decision
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2007): your moving to quik young girl youve only been goin out with him 2 weeks dont listen to your friends i think you should hold on longer because the longer you wait it would be more meanful to both of you
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reader, Lil Dee x +, writes (10 May 2007):
to be fair, i am only 17 years old so you do not have to listen to me. but from what i have heard, you have only been with this kid for 2-3weeks!! just because your friends are doing it (done it) doesnt mean you have to! if you are 100% ( not 99.99%) sure you are ready, then that is fine, go ahead! but if you slightley doubt doing it, DONT! if the lad doesnt undererstand, gets angry and leaves you, he never really loved you. put it to the test, see if he does love you! say u dont want to yet, see what he does! and if he stays with you, he loves ya! if not, he dont! he just wanted sex! i made this mistake when i was your age! dont make the same one! please! xx
hope i have helped!
Lil Dee x
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reader, steven 25206542 +, writes (10 May 2007):
 listen uve poted this question so u are not 100% so dont do it unless u are 100% and ass for the dumping a 9 month gf to be with u trust me darlin that means jak i was cing some one who supposibly dumped her bf ove 2 years to be with me and will i dont really wana talk about that but it sounds like u are taking this way to fast uve had oral sex and heavy petting and uve only been seeing each other for 2 WEEKS thats way to quick and as for loving each other that was far to quick in my full life i have only told one gf that i love them and that was after 4 month of cing each other but if he does love u he will not mind having to wait for u to be ready and as a male i will let u in on a little secret we LOVE the chase we love the fact that we dont no when its gonna happen i mean say u do have sex he might realise that he has lost interest in u and i no that the first time is speacial for a girl so plz dont wast somithing so speacil on the first lad who comes along hope this helps steven
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (10 May 2007):
 I have to say that I completely agree with all the others and the sound advice they have given you.
Wait - don't rush this.
We only get this chance once so why the hurry to give it up to the first boy who comes along. It is not a race between you and your mates and just because they may have done it or say they have does not mean that you have to because they say so. The old saying if they stuck their head up the chimney would you follow.
This guy does not sound very good I must admit, you have let him do a lot to you already and you to him. Right now it could be the challenge of nailing himself a virgin that could be the allure and then bragging about it to his mates.
If this guy is such a nice guy why did he dump his girlfriend of 9 months when he gets a whiff of you, doesn't sound that nice to me.
He will tell you whatever he thinks will make you give yourself to him so hold off and wait and see if he does give you space. Don't let yourself be alone with him when your parents are out cos that could be the one big thing that is drawing him to be with you at the moment. What are the guarantees that once he has what he wants that you suddenly don't see him again and he goes back to his girlfriend again.
I was personally 20 when I lost my virginity and OK a lot of people may say that it sounds like I was quite old but I met a guy who was 2 years older than me and when the time came I knew it was the right time and he was gentle and caring with me so for your first time don't go with a boy who is just keen to get as many notches on his bed post but someone who has lived a little and knows how to treat a woman/young woman. I am not saying you must wait till my age by any means but just don't rush it OK.
Best of luck and remember that a quickie with a boy could lead to a young 15 year old girl pregnant and alone so be so very careful please sweetheart.
BFN
Country Woman
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (10 May 2007):
 You have been with him for two weeks not two years! You should press the brake on this 'relationship' as you have to figure out if he likes you for you, or just because he gets lots of sexual fun from you...it is a tough thing to figure out from a teenage boy with raging hormones. Say no to sex and then you will see if he likes you for real. You are too young to be having a sexual relationship and you wouldn't have posted here if you didn't already know that deep down inside. Basically you cannot love someone in two weeks - it takes a while to find out about their personality etc and that is why dating is nice sometimes. If things get x-rated too soon there is a danger that when the novelty wears off (it will) there will be little friendship left to base a proper relationship around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2007): My boyfriend always says to me that if I had slept with him straight away he would have lost interest in me and would have moved on. I made him wait for over a month. He's says he loved the chase and it let us get to know each other more. We've now been together 3 years and it's scary to think I could have chucked it all away by sleeping with him too soon.
I don't think you are ready, 2 weeks is not a long time. Make him wait and get to know each other better, you want your first time to be special.
What ever happen to the traditional date for 3 months before sex? lol
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (10 May 2007):
 I think you're not ready.
I'm not saying it because you're 15 and underage, but because you had to post a question on the internet to find out if you're ready or not. This tells me you're having doubts. And if you're having doubts then you're not ready.
You will know when you're ready. That day you will feel self confident about having sex with him, it's like knowing inside that "whatever happens after this I won't regret it".
I can understand that now that you have a boyfriend, you're in love with him and you've explored sex a little bit and you're eager to find out more. That's ok, it's how it's supposed to be. But remember that when you do it the first time, you will remember it for the rest of your life, and if you do it with the wrong guy or at the wrong time it will not be a very nice memory. In fact, it might screw up how you will relate to sex for a long time ahead.
For your own sake, don't do it because your friends keep telling you to. If you look back on yourself in 5 years and realize you did it just because your friends told you to you will think "what a weak person I was then". Take your time and do it when YOU want to. Respect yourself.
Oh, and I assume that your boyfriend is very much looking forwards to this as well, but if he loves you he will understand if you say you want to wait.
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reader, crystlay +, writes (10 May 2007):
hi,
i agree with eyeswideopen. theres no rush, slow things down or it will turn into a relationship of sex and physical stuff rather than proper love. chat and get to know each other first.
In my opinion I think you should wait until u have been together for at the very least 2-3months. but even that is quite soon. espacially at 15.
And as for your friends, don't let them tell you what to do, you can ask them advice and stuff but at the end of the day its ur body and ur choice.
but whatever happens i wish u the best of luck.
xxxx
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (10 May 2007):
 Hell yes you are moving too fast. I can't believe you've allowed him to do all that other stuff already also. You have only been dating for two weeks for crying out loud. Slow down. Do you always let your friends make your most personal decisions for you? If he truly loves you he will not have a problem keeping his hands off you long enough for you guys to chat and get to know each other. Two weeks...sheesh!
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