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writes:Hi, Lately my boyfriend of 3 yrs has been acting up he always yells at me and tells me that I stress him. In the 3 yrs he managed to impregnate 2 girls but I forgave him and we moved on but I can't handle his abusiveness. Am I overreacting? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): Leave him. Your forgiveness isn't making you a better person, it's just making you a sucker for his bullsh*t.
Actions are the only thing that counts. Words are nothing. Impregnating two other girls is all you need to know about him.
And the fact that you're still taking him back? That "action" is all he needs to know about you, no matter how much you might SAY to him that this stuff bothers you.
He'll change if he's forced to. You can't force him to change, so he won't change. So it's time for you to leave.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (7 November 2007):
 Are you overreacting? No sister, you're UNDERreacting! Get this slimeball out of your life. I would have booted him after girl #2 fell pregnant, but two?
Ditch the loser, sweetness. You deserve MUCH better..
xxIndia
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reader, rockelle +, writes (7 November 2007):
 I can not believe that you are still with him after he has gotten 2 other girls pregnant. Then to make matters worst he treats you bad!
This is a question that you shouldn't even have to ask. No you are not overreacting. You need to leave this loser alone. Any man that can not give you respect and honesty is not worthy of your love. If you love him you had better learn to love from a distance and stay away from him he is bad news.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2007): Hi Hun,
Your stressing him out, I would be gone by now sweetheart 2 girls pregnant in your 3yr relationship overreacting em! No dont put up with abuse of any kind and dont be treated like a doormat leave him to his own thing hunny he has no respect for you what so ever. Take care love MANDY xxxxxxxxx
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reader, peaches83  +, writes (7 November 2007):
 No not at all.
In the time you have been together he has got two people preganant and then treats you like crap.
To be quiet honest sfter the first girl got preg i would have been out of the door but fair enough you gave it another try, resulting in him doing it again.
You should never let anyone treat you like this and dont stand for it, it can only get worse.
Get out while you can and learn what its like to live happy.
Good luck and i wish you all the best
Peaches
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (7 November 2007):
 What do you want for yourself? I think it is important for you to ask that to yourself. Where do you see yourself in five years? After you do that, ask yourself if he will help you get there or not. Life partners are chosen and should be able to help you just as much as you help them achieve each other goals.
If you believe that him having other relationships (as he has already impregnated two other women, which, by the way, means he is having unprotected sex) and insulting and yelling at you will help you get there, then maybe you should stick to being with him. If you think you deserve better, which I think you do, then its time to break off for good. No going back, no other chances, move to where you want and deserve to be.
There will be other men in your path, choose carefully!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2007): are you for real? If you are, then no you are not overreacting. I say dump him now. You say it so casually that he just "managed to impregnate 2 girls"... That's a big thing... Dump him, he's not worth it.
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