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writes:Hey,I have an issue I would like some advice with... I have been with my boyfriend for a few years but have found he often texts other girls... only girls that are friends but one of which he has slept with in the past... nothing serious just a one night stand... she is now in a relationship and has a child. The other night I had found out he had been texting her late at night till around 2am... he said she was out on the town with some friends and had text to see if he was out... is this weird?? When we row about it he makes me feel the bad person and says things like "god i cant even text my friends now" ... i think if it hadnt of been at a silly time and someone he hadnt previously slept with i wouldnt care.. i mean he texts other friends that are girls but that doesnt other me at all... but why the hell would this girl want to be texting him at silly ocklock in the morning to see if his out or not!! I just need some advice to see if im over reacting or not!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2010): How is he "friends" with a woman he had a one night stand with? That doesn't have any logicality to me. He shouldn't be texting any female friend that early in the morning unless there is some sort of emergency. How would he like it if you were texting some guy.....people really need to learn how to have respect in relationships!!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (3 August 2010):
I have to say this is a bit out there. To be texting an ex at that time in the morning is something I would be annoyed about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2010): I know exactly how you feel! I have actually been wondering the same thing because my boyfriend that I have been with for almost 2 years is always texting someone! When it is brought to his attention it always causes a big fight and some how gets turned around on me as being the bad guy! The only difference is that I have seen some of the text messages and pictures that he gets and I know if it were me that were getting these things he would have gone off the deep end and we would have broken up a long time ago! I really wish I could help you with this but it is kinda hard when I wonder the same thing along with other things all the time every day!
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reader, blahblahblahh +, writes (3 August 2010):
 I personaly don't think you're over reacting here. If it were me I'd of made my point very clear that I wasn't happy with it. I wouldn't even be happy at the idea that my boyfriend was texting a girl he has slept with, it would make me highly uncomfortable. Every one is different with this kind of thing. The important thing is that you've told him you're not happy about it, if you don't want him texting this girl then you should tell him. And if so, he should be understanding about it. As for the actual text she sent him, I think it seems a bit dodgey considering the time it was sent.
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reader, misty567  +, writes (3 August 2010):
I don't think you are over reacting . Why would she want to know what he is doing at 2am as the bars are closing? If she was just wondering if he was out then why not text earlier . My brother has always revered to the bar closing text as the "booty call " text.
I would see this as disrespectful to your relationship .
I may be wrong but that is how it looks .
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