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writes:Me and my girlfriend have been together for 1 year and 3 months. For the past month it seems like shes a different person though. I could feel her become distant and slip away. She was always so loving and caring. She finally told me the other week that she has doubts about or relationship. Our relationship is the longest she has been in and the best one she's ever had. I'm 27 and she's 22, that seems to play a part in it. I figured I would give her space so I have. I'm just scared that she will run and return to being single. I have never loved anyone like I do her, which makes this so much harder. My heart feels like its breaking apart, like I'm losing her. I just don't know what to do right now. Reply to this Question
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reader, 11muds11  +, writes (10 December 2010):
Women tend to change a lot in the early 20's. It could be that she's going through one of those times (What's she doing with her life?) and needs a change up.
But when this has happened to me before, it's generally been because something occured her life and she doesn't know how to talk about it. It may be a culmination of things, but it could be something big and she has no way of just coming out and saying what she feels.
The key is to find a time that she'll see you and will want to open up a bit. I would bring a small nice gift and sit down and chat with her. Giving her space might be the right idea, but she may need to get things off her chest too. I would try to find out without putting pressure on her.
If you're planning to get serious with her, you'll need this skill of finding out her inner feelings anyways. Good luck!
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reader, Cj21508 +, writes (10 December 2010):
I'm going through the exact same situation as you are man, and all I can really tell you is stay strong and be really really and I can't stress it enough really patient. I don't know if you guys talk at all or contact each other still, but if you guys do, maybe try asking her what she's worried or doubting about. The only thing you can do at this time is to show her support and that you care, everything else is really up to her.
I know how you feel right now and trust me, it's not a good feeling. I've been going through this feeling for the last month and a half, but like your situation it went from doubtbreaktemporary break-up. I'm not trying to scare you or anything everyone is different, every girl is different. Maybe what she's feeling is only temporary, but really all you can do is give it time. And be there for her, my relationship is like your's too we're 5 years apart, I'm 23 she's 18. So yea, just give her what she asks for and don't think too much about it.
Focus on yourself for the time being, and trying to even heal your heart, because I bet your heart is kinda torn apart right now from this.
Best of Luck
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