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writes:My bf and i have been saving money for the weekends we spend together so at 1st he used it for buying a dog...but i didnt complain. so now i lost it by mistake because he made me hold it when i did not want to. so now he is so mad at me for losing the cash. i am starting to wonder if i am important or my money is?so please help me after all a guy has to spoil a girl not buy thing together right?
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reader, ihavetoomanythoughts  +, writes (8 March 2013):
 I agree. Save separately.
If saving together, both people get decide how it's spent i.e. you should have told him off for spending JOINT money on HIS decision.
Losing money is a bit different. You've lost this money and you guys don't get anything for it. No dog. Nothing. So I guess I would be angry as well. Doesn't mean that I think money is more important than the person who lost it. He might be angry, but it doesn't mean he wants your cash.
Also, this saving together business sounds like you guys are coming at this relationship with the 50:50 approach. I'm not sure this is the best thing to do. I mean, if you guys end up married or something, you'll be counting pennies for the rest of your life.
And no, it's not a guy's job to spoil a girl. There is no HAVE in a loving relationship. There is WANT. And not "I WANT you to get this for me or else I'll think you don't love me." No. What you should be getting is "I WANT to buy him/her something because I love him/her sooooooooooo much". Unless the girl doesn't love the guy at all, there's no reason for the girl to NOT splurge on the guy every once in awhile. Same deal on the guy's end.
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reader, misLadYd.. +, writes (7 March 2013):
 let me just ask why would you save money together? why not save seperately?
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (7 March 2013):
At your age, money is way more important then boys/girls. In fact, thats the case at almost any age. Finding a bf/gf = very easy. Making money = very hard.
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