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writes:I'm 24 and I come from a very conservative christian family,and my parents forced me into marriage with this guy from the same community! I told my parents not to,they dint listen and I eventually gave up and thought may be I could love this person and we could build a life!its been a year now and I'm still not in love with him.I feel miserable that because of me this guy is stuck with a wife who doesn't love him!how can I make my marriage work?I can't get myself to love him! I can't stand his sight:( and my relatives are waiting for a chance to pounce on me,where I make a mistake and ruin my marriage so they can say how good their daughters are and how bad am I! what do I do?
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (7 March 2013):
Please try and not be so hard on youself.Give this marraige Time and a chance.You cannot force youself to love someone let LOVE grow over time.bECAUSE YOUR HUSBAND MUST HAVE SOME GOOD POINTS.otherwise your parents would not have choose him for you.This in-love situation is much over rated, Love can develope over time and a love that will last the test of time .Best WISHES.Nora B.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (7 March 2013):
Well, what I would do is to tell him the truth and get a divorce, then move away!
If you are determined to stay with him then you need to do things that will help you get over your resentment of him and help you develop feelings for him. Go on dates, learn new things together (dancing, cooking, etc) and treat him well even if you don't feel it. That will lead to him treating you well in return, which may lead to developing feelings for each other.
REMEMBER: you only have one life to live, and a life without love is a sad thought. If you've tried everything and just can't love him, then LEAVE HIM. Who cares what your annoying relatives think? This isn't their life or your parents, it's yours! Make your own decisions.
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (7 March 2013):
I'm shocked you were forced to marry in a civilized country like Australia!
In some European countries forced marriage is actually a crime.
Your family should be deeply ashamed of themselves.
Can you life on your own? Do you have a job? If you don't, do you think you're able to find a job?
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reader, hardnut +, writes (7 March 2013):
Sounds like your dislike for him, comes from the pressure to marry him. Would guess he was pressured as well. Stop blaming him for your condition. He is not your parents and did not force you. If you get past this part, you might get to know this guy. Who knows you might fall in love with him.
If you feel this way, sex must be a job for you. For him it might be like meat box to ejaculate in.
Talking with him about your and his feeling is a start. He will understand and who knows, he might feel the same as you do,
If you can not get past this, end it. see a lawyer and ask for a divorce.
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