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writes: This is a twister...My girlfriend and I broke up sort of, and we never spoke for approx three weeks.In those three weeks a friend of my cousin's stayed at my house. This friend is my age.In this time we got to know each other etc and she was attracted to me but I said we would move slow.But in doing this I ended up taking her to dinner and she and I have kissed on the lips (no tongue, nothing like that, just basic). Now my gf is seeing me again. Is this considered cheating? I had been thinking if I actually like this friend but I don't and now how do I let her know this without hurting her and without my gf finding out?AM I FUCKED???? CuZ I think I am.PLZ HELP ME PLEASE
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reader, mystify +, writes (4 February 2006):
 hi ,
why shouldnt your girlfriend find out? dosent she have a right to make her disisions based on the facts available?
i know if me and my fella split for just three weeks and he was already at it with someone else i would wanna know , its about respect , you cant build a relationship on lies and deception.
but the new girl just tell her straight its over , you cant control people or what is said on the grapevine but you can stop it fronm getting out of hand
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2006): This situation is unfair for both your girlfriend and the girl you went on a date with. If you feel like dating other people, break it off with your girlfiend. Otherwise, let the girl you dated know that you're getting back together with your girlfriend. Obviously one of them will be disappointed, but it's better than stringing both of them along.
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reader, Virginiaac +, writes (29 January 2006):
Why feel guilty? Behave just like every other creep - lie!
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reader, fairyangel  +, writes (29 January 2006):
 There is no such thing as you " SORT OF" broke up...
You either did, or you didnt!
If you were just having time away from each other to clear your heads and you did not actually mention breaking up, then YES...
You did cheat.
You have now since decided that you would prefer to be with the devil you know... rather than the devil you don't know?...
Then you need to be straight with this new girl and tell her... it was great, you enjoyed her company, she's a great person, etc... but you have patched things up with your girlfriend, and no hard feelings.
Hopefully, she will be able to move on from there, and be with someone who can make her happy too, as she also deserves.
There is no easy way out of this one, I'm afraid, you are going to have to just be a man about it and learn from lifes challenges... then move on into the direction you desire...
Life is all about choices... we all have choices and sometimes we stuff up, but then we always have a choice to then fix up, too.
Best Of Luck, do what is right in your heart, and most of all... Be Happy.
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reader, kjandrew +, writes (29 January 2006):
The way I look at it, if you dont do this fast you are, cause if your gf finds out you have nobody. Just sit the new girl down and explain to her the situation.....
or if you prefer, you could always tell her your going to have to leave the city or the state for a while and help a relative of yours get better from surgery, I think you get the idea.
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