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*egazzz
writes:I am a disabled person and I started visiting prostitute for paid sex. I am very nice to her and I always give her some extra money. She is also very kind to me, she helps me undress my self and later putting clothes back. She alway seems to be glad when i call her but.. I started to feel guilty about this, I started to think of me as a monster who is traumatising a poor woman because she has sex with disfigured man. I wanted to ask you (answer from a prostitute would be the best) How does prostitute feels when she has to have sex with disabled man even if she knows he is a nice and kind? Do they think: Oh great he is so nice and always gives me some extra money, never mind he is disabled or... oh no, I curse my life for having to do this with that disfigured man who thinks his extra money will ease all the trauma I'm going through while having sex with him.
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reader, Pegazzz +, writes (23 September 2012):
Pegazzz is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTnx for answers, you really helped me. But user "Lucky786" hitted the problem directly in center. I feel pretty bad about my self, and not just about how i look, but also about my charisma, intelligence etc. But that is a long story.
Tnx aggain
(I misscliked when I was registring me. Im not female :d)
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (22 September 2012):
If this woman didn’t want to have sex with you, she had the choice to say no. A prostitute may have sex for money, but she still has the choice as to whether or not she has sex with a client or not. The danger, of course, is that some clients are violent, won’t take no for an answer and treat her badly. It sounds like you treat her well and she is happy to provide her service to you. It is a shame that you think so little of yourself that you would believe that she would hate to have sex with you so much, or that you’re some kind of “monster” because, regardless of the fact that you have a disability, you have sexual urges just like everyone else. Remember that a disabled person is, first and foremost, a person. If you’re not comfortable with using the services of a prostitute, then don’t use them, but the saddest part of your post is this belief that some-one who has sex with you must be a poor victim who has no choice in the matter, because in truth having sex with you is an unpleasant idea and bound to be traumatic. There are people in the world who will mock those with disabilities, of course, but there are people who won’t judge you or be drawn away from you because of how you look. This woman sounds like one of those people who sees you as another customer, not just as a disabled person, and she treats you with the respect that any human being deserves. She sees you as some-one who is equally important to her as any of her other clients.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2012): As an ex-prostitute myself, I can tell you it doesn't matter the way you look, when I worked the only thing I cared about was how they treated me, sounds like you treat her nicely. Also it sounds like she doesn't mind at all, if she did she wouldn't bother to help you undress, put your clothes back on etc...
Many people look down on prostitutes and people who use them it may not be the perfect lifestyle, but really there's nothing to feel guilty about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2012): I wouldn't worry about it. The prositute probably has clients who are violent with her or torment her. You sound like a considerate man and it shows in your being concerned about how the prostitute feels. You just have to make sure that you do not get emotionally attached to the prostitute. She most likely tries to detach herself from her clients/her work. It is after all just business. As long as she gives you the service you two agreed upon prior and you pay her, it should be fine. I would probably report to the authorities anonymously though, if the prostitute is very young (under 21) or seems to be asking for help somehow. There are people forced into sex slavery which is a horrible situation for anyone to be in, and the people who force these victims into prostitution should be prosecuted
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reader, Lucky786 +, writes (22 September 2012):
 You need to look in yourself and address the obvious issue, your guilt and lack of self-esteem.
Your issue isn't with the prostitute and how she feels about you. It's how you feel about you.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (22 September 2012):
 Sex workers are business people. I am pretty sure the woman you visit would not offer her service to you if she didn't think it was finacially viable.
As to what she thinks in her head, there is only one person who can answer that question...her...so ask her.
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