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writes:Previously my girlfriend and I were living together until when out one night she grabbed a strangers crotch when I was away from the table we were sitting at. She claims there is nothing worng with what happened. Upon arriving home I told her to move out.Since I have tried to work things out, but feel she doesnt want to, although in a way I do.The following weekend she came over but left shortly after, she asked if I had picked up when I was out, which kind of hurt as I cancelled plans to spend time with her, later she said something nasty and I then was rather nasty in return. I have appologised so many times and tried to explain but it seems to fall on deaf ears.I have asked her how she feels and if she would like to work things out, her reply is she likes me thinks im a nice guy but isnt ready for my nastyness in the background and wants to be friends, maybe more later.In a way I feel I should leave it as friends only and not try to work in out in the meantime. I have a gut feeling she has meet someone else or while were friends and working through things she will. Im confussed as I do like her though will never work a relationship out with her again if she has been with someone else as I wouldnt do so if trying to work things out.Am I better to move on and see her only as a friend or stick in there and try to work it out?
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reader, Vessence +, writes (4 February 2009):
Vessence is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe came over last night to hang out as friends, while she was here she got 3 messages but wouldnt reply, she claims it was her borther and I want to beleive her though after the 3rd msg she took her phone into the loo with her.I seriously think something more is going on, I mean what she did isnt acceptable though I would like to work past it in a way. I just doubt her honesty.
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reader, runnamuck +, writes (2 February 2009):
i hate it when ppl blame being drunk for there actions .. they need to take full responsiblity f there actions .. grabbing someones cructh is outrageous especially when in a realtionship .. good on ya 4 kicking her out ... my ex grabbed my hand and placed it on his cructh i wanted to smash him ..i was horrified not only was it wrong of him to do it im also the ex who he cant even talk to bcause he feels nothing 4 me he doesnt remember cos he was drunk ..pfft .. ppl who say they were drunk are just saving face
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reader, Vessence +, writes (2 February 2009):
Vessence is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI totally agree grabbing a guys crouch is only acceptable if it was mine or if we had an open relationship where that was acceptable.Thank you for your comments, Ive been kicking myself thinking its my fault and because I threw her out and got nasty I wreaked things. To consider doing that is acceptable becuase she was drunk and is meaningless by her is not excusable and shows her morals.
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reader, GD  +, writes (1 February 2009):
No matter which way you look at it, your girlfriend grabbing a stranger's crotch is not a good thing.What reason did she give for her action?Had she seen the crotch before and wanted to feel it to make sure?Seriously, I don't see much to salvage here.I am pretty sure a woman who is interested in YOU will not grab another guy's sack!It is logical to have a fight over this, and I can understand nasty words being exchanged.But I think you were on the way out anyway.If she wanted to stay, she would have tried to work things out with you.My advice is get rid of her, forget her and thank your lucky stars she did something like this now, rather than when you are married with two kids.Good Luck,
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