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anonymous
writes:how do u no when a guy your "together" with is using u for sex ?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): What does it mean when the guy says I like you a lot but I don't love you? Does it mean that he is in a relationship to have a good time? He also said he wanted some more physical reaction from me........ I am a virgin and said he should wait......... he said he would
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009): Don't bother asking him if he is using you for sex, you won't get an honest answer....it doesn't matter what he says, it matters what he does.
You answered your own question, you have only known him three months and he doesn't ask you out, you hang out for only a half hour and or have sex every time you get together.....he's using you.
If you want to find out what his agenda is, stop hanging out with him when he asks, be busy with your own life, tell him No to sex and don't call him email him or text him. If he really wants to be with you he will chase you down like a bee to a flower and ask you what is up, he will ask you out on a real date and he will be respectful.
From the sounds of it, I wouldn't hold my breath....why don't you date some other guys, not sleep with them, just date them and maybe you will find someone who is nicer to you......You can't expect sex to lead to a relationship, it is the other way around.....he wants to be exclusive, then you have sex.....if all he is after is sex he won't stick around....and there is your answer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe guy i have been with lately weve been together for about three months . . and we onli started having sex a month ago and since then its just been we have either had sex or we have hung out for half an hour . . . . i want to ask him . . . is that a gud idea . .. if so can you give me some advise on what to say
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (1 February 2009):
You don't have sex with him until you are sure he's serious about you.
If he's just after sex then he won't hang around.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2009): If you have to ask this question then that is a red flag. What is it about this relationship that makes you feel this way, tune into your feelings and talk with him candidly......
One way you can be sure a guy is not using you is to NOT have sex for a long period of time until you have a strong foundation of friendship to your relationship, a guy who really loves you for you will be happy just to be in your company sans sex.
Also, he will ask you to be his girl, no uncertain terms.
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