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writes:Okay, I'm 14. I've been feeling like I'm missing out on stuff. For example, I've never even had a boyfriend and I've never even kissed anyone. My friends have boyfriends and drama in their lives. Not that I want drama but I'm just rarely involved in any problems and stuff. My life is very boring and plain if that makes sense. I'm at home most of the time and all I do is be with my computer all day reading celebrity gossip or watch tv. It feels really pathetic. I don't have much fun. I feel like I'm missing out and all of this is making me stay this way, like I'm not maturing, you know? Sometimes I feel alone and it's been months since I last felt something like idk. I've been feeling SOOOO numb and Ii don't have many memories of the past few months and it's all going by so fast. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTHANKS YOU GUYS! honestly, all of you helped me a lotI'm gonna go out more, have more fun, more chill. get crazy have fun. And if I'm home I'll talk on the phone or whatever.Thanks. And I won't worry about boys.It all comes in time, thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2009): I can honestly say that when I was your age, I felt much of the same. I'd never been kissed, never been on a date, and I thought I was less mature than my classmates. I think it's a completely normal part of the teen years, but it's nothing to be ashamed of!Looking back, I wish I had talked to someone about how I felt. My mom has always been really supportive of me, but I never opened up and told her that I didn't feel happy. While many of the people I knew were "hanging out" and doing whatever, I sat at home. I wish I'd put myself out there or joined some clubs or gone to church with friends, if only for the social contact. Even now (I'm in my mid twenties) many of my friends still keep in contact with people they knew in middle- and high-school, but I feel like I missed out on that part of my adolescence. My advice for you is to try to find some loyal girl friends. I know it sucks to not have a boyfriend, but boyfriends are often the cause of stress and drama, which it sounds like you don't need. Your girlfriends will always be there for you. When you're having a bad day, they'll understand. Talk to your mom, too, if you feel comfortable. Moms have an amazing way of knowing exactly what you're feeling and can give you help in ways that you least expect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2009): let me save you 15 years of angst and let you know that a boyfriend will not make you happy, only you can make you happy. start doing things that you are passionate about and have interest in or be active, volunteer, or join a sports activity or some sort of club. you are definitely not going to meet anybody moping around at home. the boyfriend and the experiences will come in due time and whether you are in a relationship or not you can be happy with yourself
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reader, MyDestiny  +, writes (1 February 2009):
 i understand.. im just like you except that im a 14 year old guy and i have kissed grls before and have a bunch of drama in my life wich i really hate but i never had a grlfriend and my parents dont allow me to have a socail life..so i mostly stay at home on the computer or watching t.v...so i too feel like im missin a lot in life.. i feel that when i grow up i wont have any gudd childhood memories... nut its alright, hang in there iaght....it'll get better through more of our high school years.. gudd luck
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reader, shna  +, writes (1 February 2009):
 my advice would be to get out of your old habits NOW !!!!!make memories that are guna stay with you forever do you really want to look bk on your life wen your like 90 and think man i did nothing wen i was a teenager all i did was sit at home like a couch potatoe going on the internet etc . . . . ask your friends juring the weekend if they wana hang out go the the mall . . . have sleepovers etc the things girls your age most likely do believe in yourself =] talk to boys in school makes some more new friends become happy within yourself . . . and youll see the changes its a new year it can be a new start for anybody . . . . . but it all depends on you to be determined enough to change your ways and stop feeling sorry for yourself when you have so much to live for
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reader, KiaGrace  +, writes (1 February 2009):
 Your fourteen, girl. You have your whole life ahead of you.Don't seek into depression just because you have never had a boyfriend or kissed anyone. Your time will come, I promise you! It's normal to feel left out when it comes down to it, but maybe try stepping out of your shell and talking to boys more often and see where that takes you.Maybe tell your friends how you have been feeling, and they can set you up with a boy and you guys could double date. I really don't have any other advice except that you will find a boyfriend, and oh yes the drama will come unfortuantley, it always does.. I suggest you sit back and relax while you can, because teenage years are a bumpy ride..
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reader, momo4eva77 +, writes (1 February 2009):
Probably you should make yourself feel better within yourself. Change your look or change your attitude toward things. Try to flirt more and do what your frends do but don't necessarily copy them. I used to be like you in the fifth grade woah! never going back ever since 6th grade I'm all over boys cuz I changed my look and my attitude so take it from someone who's been there. Good luck with the new you!!!! :)
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