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writes: I think I am being very jealous.My boyfriend does sides jobs every now and then.This time it is at a store two women own. I only know what he tells me. And he told me they were ordering lunch today and he ordered something as well and they ate it at the store.I don't know why but i just felt very jealous and was wondering their age and how old they are.I didn't ask my boyfriend because I would sound very jealous...it's crazy to feel this way about a situation like this isn't it???
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reader, Stayc63088  +, writes (7 April 2008):
 Its not crazy to feel jealous, its just an insecurity issue. I struggle with them myself at times and wonder why I worry about some of the things I worry about him doing. Really think about it, are you scared he would cheat on you? Or find someone he likes better? Those are some of my fears anyway. Remind yourself he loves you, and if he were to cheat, you can do better anyway. He was honest with you so if you were to confront him, just explain how you feel without sounding crazy or irrational. Say something along the lines of "I know its crazy, but for some reason I felt a little jealous when you told me about those women at work.." Just be open and honest. Don't get mad or angry as we tend to do with jealousy. What should happen is he explains their age or what they mean to him and you will feel a lot better about the whole situation. He may even be a little flattered that you care so much about him. Just try to be more confident, I know it's hard. But he's with you for a reason and wouldnt be if he didnt want to be. Also openess and honestly makes for a very healthy relationship and makes you feel much better in the long run having everything out in the open and not bottled up inside constantly worrying. Good luck :)
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reader, citris +, writes (7 April 2008):
 Personally I feel that in this situation he is being honest and forthcoming with you, so there really shouldn't be a problem. jealousy can be a nasty thing and can lead to alot of problems in relationships. Since your guy is being honest with you, it might be a good idea to be honest with him and let him know that you feel a bit silly, but that you were a bit jealous of him spending this lunchtime with two other women.
More than likely he will hopefully re-assure you that it's nothing and that if it was he would tell you. I hope that outside of this you and your boyfriend are happy together and get along well in your relationship.
Best of luck to you!
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reader, Whynot +, writes (7 April 2008):
Hmm.. probably. Imagine yourself in that situation. Ordering lunch doesn't really qualify as infidelity.. or unordinary.
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