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writes:i had a bf,a very first bf.he asked for sex.when i refused immediatelyhe cursed me and said i'm boring and old fashion.i talked to my friend.they said it's my faultfor reject his offer.she said it's normal to have sex when they're in relationship;strengthening the love,nothing wrong with that then she calledme the same thing what bf said.to be honest 90%of my classmates had sex before college.am i being old fashion and boring,does sex is necessary? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2010): Dear Lady,
there is hugh difference in what your friends will do and what they tell to others.
SO do not worry. It was perfectly normal to not let your BF use you for sex. It is goo d way to test hi love and genuineity of it.
u are ok and did the right thing. if you have not lost virginity, preserve it for your DH
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reader, Ich_liebe_dich +, writes (28 March 2010):
 No" you are not old fashion, you only made a little rule in your self and you just want to respect your own rule. And if this bf step away just because he did not get what he want, at least you find out very early what is his only motive in this relationship. If he really love you he will respect you and wait untill at least when you are ready. I actually admire person like you specially in our Country, SOME women is already acting easy to get so SOME man think they can easily get what they want. I hope theres still a lot of women their like you.. Good luck and have a great day...
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reader, Adizzle  +, writes (27 March 2010):
Hey u! Dnt gv in jst bcos ur friends feel u should 4 all we know they might be jealous of u cos u av wat dey dnt av nd can never av again, ur boyfriend is a thief who jst wanna have a taste and b gone, he dsnt deserve u cos u seem like a very nice nd considerate person. Jst kip it if u want 2 and d right boy might jst b on d way! Cheerz.
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (27 March 2010):
 You're not being boring. You're being mature. It's not only rude and childish of him to insult you for refusing him, but it show's a basic lack of respect for you as a person.
You have sex when YOU want to, when YOU'RE ready, NEVER just because some guy wants it.
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reader, iloveblue  +, writes (27 March 2010):
 The more you shouldn't give in to your boyfriend, the nerve for him to tell you you are boring! In fact dump him, clearly he is just after the sex, obviously he just wants to use you. If he loves you, he will respect you and will wait till you're ready. Imagine, he couldn't wait to have sex with you that he was even able to say those totally disrespectful comments.
And to your friends, they are bad influences. Sex is not wrong but it is not an obligation either to a boyfriend. Do not listen to them, it doesn't mean that everyone is into sex so must you. If you are not ready to do it, then don't..it is your body, it is for yourself not for anyone.
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reader, sweetiebabes +, writes (27 March 2010):
 You are not boring and you did the right thing for yourself, having self-respect and placing high value on yourself. If your boyfriend loves you, he will wait.
If he leaves just because you were not able to give what he wants and needs, then, he is not really into you and will just have you for his physical pleasures.
Have faith in yourself and don't let anyone shake your faith because that's really all that you have. Dignity is an attractive quality.
Take care of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2010): It's your body and choice if/when you want to sleep with someone. If a guy doesn't respect your choices, then perhaps he is not the right guy for you. Your friends may be a little more free with their bodies, but they should also respect your choices for choosing not to sleep with your bf. It really is no one's business but your own. You respect yourself and will be ready to take it to the next level with someone who you feel comfortable with. It's about feeling comfortable with someone and being able to communicate your feelings to them. You are perfectly fine and are not being old fashioned. Since sex seems to be about everywhere- on tv, in movies, on the Internet- people have become used to it. You have respect for yourself and want it to be special- nothing old fashioned about that! Take care!
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reader, Tasmanian devil  +, writes (27 March 2010):
 If you feel like you want to have sex then do so when your ready and not just because the people around you are. And he doesn't seem like a good boyfriend if he calls you old fashioned and boring, because your not ready for sex. Its not meant to be necessary like a chore, its meant to be an expression of love
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