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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Latley I've been feeling alot of confusion in my relationship. I don't know if I have real problems or if I'm making them up in my head. My boyfriend sometimes gets upset from stress. It affects his mood tremendously, sometimes he's stand offish, sometimes rude, but mostly I feel guilty when I've done nothing to alter his mood in a negative way. I've noticed lately that his emotional mood also affects his sexual mood. I started birth control since we've been together and I've gained weight. However, I'm still not overweight. He only wants to make love when he's been drinking. He says because during the week he is tired, or stressed and drinking makes him more relaxed. We've just moved in together and things have obviously changed but before we moved in together we made love constantly. Am I being insecure about the entire situation or do we have a problem? Somebody help
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (23 June 2007):
 You need to find out what is causing his stress. It could be a few things, it could be work related, he could be worried about his family, himself or the fact he's moved in with you. Drinking alleviates his stress and helps him relax more hence the reason he'll want to make love to you. Thing is, he doesn't want to become dependent on drink as it will cause him a different set of problems. How long have you been together and how old are you both?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2007): move out, it just goes down-hill from there. Trust me I KNOW!
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help +, writes (22 June 2007):
 i think you guys need to talk maybe the moving in was a big step and now you are there all time or maybe work has got stressful and he just needs to relax more. just talk and work out what could be a problem, until you talk you will never know if you are crazy or if there is a problem and it needs to be sorted. good luck xx
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