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41-50,
*non_e_mouse
writes:Well, where do I start? I'm 30 now and my life is coming together nicely. I have had a lot of crap to deal with in my life over the last 7 years after my Dad passing away unexpectedly, looking after my Nan (his mum) who has been suffering from senile dementure, being made redundant and out of work for 6 months and having to live in a tiny bedsit.Having finally got my life back I have been concentrating on what I want...I've worked hard to get to where I am with my career and got a decent job and my career is really going places. I work to live not live to work but I have worked really hard to get to where I am today and have some very exciting plans for 2010.Financially I have been clearing my debts, which were horrific and I can see the light at the end of tunnel in no more than a few months now.It would seem MY life will finally begin at 30 and I'm ready to settle down (eventually I want to have a family of my own). However, it really isn't easy being a single bloke at 30.You'd be surprised just how hard it is. Speaking to my friends which have settled down I can completely understand when they say they would not ever want to be single again.I do ok for myself and don't really have much trouble in attracting ladies. Don't get me wong I'm no Adonis and by no means perfect but I do alright. However, I just don't seem to meet anyone worthwhile.I suppose I give everyone the benefit of the doubt and am too trusting. The last one I met and got to know over a few months turned out to be one of the usual nightmares and I suppose I feel dissappointed more than anything... I really thought this could be the one. First girl I've met in a long time I thought worth going out with."All the good ones are taken" is a phrase I hear all the time and as I always seem to attract girls who have serious issues I'm starting to believe it. It does make sense; why would any decent woman not be taken already? At my age they're most likely in a long-term relationship or married, maybe even with kids?After payday I plan on taking an evening cooking class; I live on my own and cook and would like to enjoy more variety. Might also be a good way to broaden my horizons and give me something to do one evening a week other than watch TV.Sounds a bit sad like I'm some lonely old man but I'm ready to settle down. Perhaps at 30 I'm already on the shelf?
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (22 April 2009):
anon_e_mouse is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hi Darity,
I'm sure there are women out there that feel the same as I do. Where though? I don't want to be one of those people who just settle for someone for the sake of settling down. It'll happen when I least expect it I imagine.
Haha thanks reign154 :)
Sorry careynorth,
I didn't mean to mean to offend... "well your post is bothersome to all us perfectly great ladies who are over 30". It shouldn't be bothersome and I'm sure there are decent women out there... Somewhere.
"Its even bordering on the rude side because you can easily find a 25 year old to marry you. while you know that a 30 year old lady is not in your position".
Of course they are and I have to disagree with your "because it's a man's world" thing. If it were a man's world how come I'm getting mucked about by women all the time and their stupid games?
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reader, careynorth  +, writes (21 April 2009):
well your post is bothersome to all us perfectly great ladies who are over 30. its even bordering on the rude side because you can easily find a 25 year old to marry you. while you know that a 30 year old lady is not in your position.
so in answer to your question old man... you can probably marry an 18 year old if you choose to. because it's a man's world.
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reader, reign154  +, writes (21 April 2009):
I'm really sorry about what happened to your dad because its really hard losing someone you love. you seem so confident and passionate about what you do for your career. That's just so great. I may just be 18 but i know one thing that a guy like you is really hard to come by. Lol hope im not boosting your ego too much :) Women are always looking for a guy thats fun loving, passionate, knows what he wants for life, and def cook(thats really hot). There are alot of women out here that would def go out with you and if you are the guy i think you are then you should have no prob finding that one to settle down with. Ive always learned that something great happens when you least expect it, so instead of looking for that one just test the waters and have fun. Life is to short single or not. being yourself is what really makes you attractive. xoxox reignp.s. Im really into cooking maybe we can exchange some recipes. :)
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reader, Darity +, writes (21 April 2009):
 I am sorry to hear about your fathers passing and your tough life you lead, but it sounds like you are on the right track now. I can tell you all the good women are not taken, I am sure you think you are a good man and your not taken at thirty, so I am sure their are women out there that feel the same, as you do, and are looking for Mr Right. I hope you understand what I am trying to say.
I think it is great that you are going to take a cooking class--hey maybe you will find that special someone there.
Good Luck,
--Darity
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