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writes:Ok. I know that quite a few people am probably going to say I'm too young to really know what I'm feeling but whilst I understand that and know my feelings may change as I get older right now this is impossible. I'd begun to suspect I might be gay/ a lesbian when everyone else started to become interested in guys... and I started noticing girls. I kind of denied it until about six months ago when I began to admit it to myself; and developed feelings for one of my best friends. I couldn't cope with not telling her any more and, about a week ago, I told her. She said she didn't reciprocate and obviously it hurt, but I've carefully kept up an act to save our friendship; I don't want to scare her off by letting her know the true extent of my feelings. But I thought things would get easier, but despite the fact that I know she doesn't want us to be together I can't help thinking how beautiful she is, and wanting more then just friendship. I keep leaning across to touch her on the shoulder to check she's ok, just to be close to her. I know if I don't get over this soon she'll notice and it might destroy our friendship. Help!xxx
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (12 July 2007):
 Good luck, dear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk, thanks for the help, both of you. Just to update, the girl involved has in fact now come up to me and admitted she has feelings for me too, but was scared of admitting it before. We're gonna take things incredibly slowly, and see how it works out. Wish me luck! xxx
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reader, dollparts  +, writes (11 July 2007):
 k with both you maybe a lesbian just wait and see you never know right? it will come to you trust me =) and with getting over her some times you just have to remember that friendship is important and if you try any more with wanting her then you might lose your friendship
message me if you want to talk more about this=)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry, bit of a misunderstanding, that's what I meant. I know I need to get over her, I just don't know how. I'm hoping feelings will fade with time and a six week ummer break. It's the lesbian issue that I hate not knowing about. But thanks xxx
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (11 July 2007):
There can be doubt only about whether you're a lesbian. There is none about your friend not reciprocating, and about the need that you stop any advances or you'll destroy the friendship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk, thanks for the advice, I just hate the not knowing!
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (10 July 2007):
I see two different issues here. One is whether you're a lesbian; the other is getting over her.
Maybe you're a lesbian, yes. If you're not sure by now, time will tell for sure.
About your friend: if she says she doesn't reciprocate, well, don't push it. As you correctly said, you might destroy the friendship.
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