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writes: my wife passed away i want to get close to her twin would my wife want us to be happy Reply to this Question
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reader, batman  +, writes (17 February 2007):
 if you would be happy with her then i think that your wife that past would be happy.
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (17 February 2007):
 I must say that If died and the 2 people I loved most that's to say my sister and my husband would get together as they live it would be absolutely ok for me and I would even like them taking care of each other and so on but if you realise she is not the deceased lady if you want to imagine she is her dead twin then you should get distance in between but if u can cope it's wonderful
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reader, stacey.m06  +, writes (17 February 2007):
sorry for your loss. im deeply sure your wife would want to be happy. however im not sure that being close to her twin in that way would make you happy. your longing to bring your wife bak and have that closeness you shared but she's gone and being with her sister is not gonna give you what you had with your wife. im sure shed be hoping for you to move on with your life, but maybe you should consider finding someone different to love. i feel that if you date her twin you will be comparing every little thing and its not fair on either of you. i hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2007): The Twin is not your wife and will never be. She may look like her but she isn't her. I think there is a lot of comfort and familiarity in wanting to be with her twin sister so I could see the appeal.
What does the twin sister feel towards you and when did this train of thought and desire develop between the two of you?
What do you think the family will think? Are you both prepared to deal with the confusion, hurt, and, anger of family?
I think your wife is in a happy place surrounded by family and friends and would want for you and her twin to be happy.
I don't think she would harbour any hard feelings and won't see it as betrayal. Those kind of feelings and thoughts tend to be more mortal oriented and where she is; she has a greater perspective and has a newfound outlook to what life is really about.
So in the end, it is your decision.
You get to do what you feel is right and what will bring you happiness.
Best Wishes.
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reader, carolanne +, writes (17 February 2007):
no not with her twin that would be a total betrayal.
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reader, Carina  +, writes (17 February 2007):
 I'm wondering how long ago your wife died. There's a tendency to try to fill the void after the death of a spouse and quite often this will be someone like a best friend, or in your case a twin sister. Ideally you should make no major decisions until at least a year after a bereavement like this. However, there is no harm in becoming good friends with your sister-in-law if she wants the same thing. Take things very slowly though and make sure she has the same expectations as you so that neither of you gets hurt. Keep it relaxed and see how things develop. I'm sure your wife would have wanted you both to be happy if that's what you decide in the end, but please don't rush into anything you might later regret!
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