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writes:hii have a 1 year old little girl with my parnter who i have been with for 3 years now im only 21 my self and i have fell pregnant again with the same man of couse im not sure what to do do i keep it or do i get rid of it my partner wants it but im not sure i have my little girl do i really need any more children yet i have all my life ahead of me yet what shall i do help me make the right answer Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): Hello,
I had to write to your question. Everyone has their own opinion and by all means you must be in a difficult position but to just "get ride of it" is not the right answer. You and your boyfriend both know how to use protection and because you are now pregnant again you should be keeping it. I am in the same situation.. I have been with my partner for 3 years as well but we both know that we need to use protection and now that I might be pregnant it is now up to us and deal with what we have caused. Just think that there are so many women and men all over the world that try so hard to have children and cant. Always remember that you are one of the lucky ones who can have children whenever.
Do the right thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): well you should keep it so your child is not lonely you no what i mean
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2008): Arrr, honey! I can totally understand and empathise with your current situation. I had my first child at 21 and was pregnant again by 23 and again by 25. I have two boys and a girl. aged 4, 2 and 7 months. My second and third pregnancy were both unplanned but the second was wanted more than the third. Now that I have given birth to them all I honestly wouldnt change it for the world. However the final pregnancy was the hardest thing that I have ever had to deal with in my whole life as she was not wanted (IS NOW) and I was refused a termination from my GP. I would have felt happier if I was in your shoes because this will be your second child and your partner wants you to have it. Therefore you have the support you need and you will be giving your other child a playmate/sibling. Have you got sister/brother? Do you get along with them? I think that this is a blessing in disquise and if you decide to keep the child you will feel as though you made the right choice. The fact that your children will both be from the same partner is another blessing. Many mothers dream of having more than one child and especially with the same father. I am not anti-abortion (nearly had one myself) but from your post you sound to be living a good life. Yes it is very daunting the prospect of having two children under the age of two and I sure you would have done it differently if you could turn back the clock. But the fact is you cant and you already are a mother of two regardless of whether you've given birth or not. The early days will be very very difficult but you will reap the rewards later on. Just remember that if you decide to go ahead with the pregnancy you need to make sure that you have all the support you need, have a plan and make sure you are organised. This way you will be less stressed and can continue having a good time away from the childrn. You are 21 and you are young and I can totally understand why you would be fearful of going ahead with this pregnancy.Take it from me a mum of three at 25. You CAN still have fun and enjoy your youth, you will just be a little more wiser and grown up that many of your friends. You could also ring parentline on 0808 800 4444 and discuss your concerns with them. One last piece of advice. This is YOUR body and YOUR baby. YOU have to be the one to decide. Take advice from others but go with your heart. Take the time out to decide what you want to do but dont leave it too long. Good luck x
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reader, SilverSong86  +, writes (7 January 2008):
I think you should keep it. Children are often more of a blessing than you can guess they will be. YOu have a supportive partner in your life and another child, so I don't think you have any reason not to have the child. Of course, it's your choice, but if I were I'd keep it. Good luck!
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reader, x-Happy-Feet-x +, writes (7 January 2008):
 well i think you should maye think of a termination wait till your little girls like 3 then maybe try for a baby i completely agree with ajjess on this one your girl will want a brother or sister to play with but im not sure right now because there will only be 1 age diffrent and its a handfull with one baby i think with too it will be hard however if you have the money confidence and time for another baby go ahead have it but i think you should have a talk with your partner though xx hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2008): Hi
just becuase you have one baby, does not mean that you should abort the other special baby you have on the way, if you and your partner are in love, and there are no other problems you are telling us about, the only reason you are killing it is that you are scared, but that is normal. I think that if you abort this baby you will think about it every day of your life, and deep down, you will regret it every morning you wake up, and every night you go to sleep. But do whatever is right for you and your partner
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reader, AJ jess ^..^ +, writes (7 January 2008):
 i am an only child but i have half brothers and sisters who stop by sometimes, from your childs perspective as they grow older they would like to have someone to play with confide with and who cares about them, this is something that i missed but had kindof. I suggest that it is your decision but if i were yu id keep the babe and your partner xoxo
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