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writes:Hi, I am living with my boyfriend for about 4 months now and we are constantly arguing. The house were living in is mine i bought it but i asked him to live with me. he seems to have a terrible problem with the fact I own the house. I can't take the rowing for much more. He is tormenting the life out of me. First i felt like he wasnt paying his way in the house, and when i brought that up with him he flipped out and says he buys lots of things for the house but because he doesn't own the house he doesn't see why he should pay the bills or doesn't eat that much food then why should he pay for it. My head is so addled at the moment and I'm wondering should we break up or are these just teething problems and will things get better. Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (9 January 2008):
 You feel he has not pull his weight and he is cold and calculating.If there is love, you would not count those things.
If he has love , he would not mind paying or contribute his share for the house and help you out financially.Is he unwilling or unable or you asked more than he can give you?
When you asked him to come to live with you , you did not state your terms to him.You expect him to foot your half of your house and share your expenses. He thought since you own the house and paying for it ,he only need to pay for the things in the house. You need to compromise and agree on who pays what.
Love is a many splendid thing.But in your case, it is about the nitty and gritty things of who is going to pay what. LOL! Do you want a lover or a business partner?
Do you earn more than him? Marriage problems is all about sex, power and money.
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reader, Dr Vendetta  +, writes (7 January 2008):
 are you happy... no.
is he threatend by powerful sucessful women.. yes
Man fire!! Man hunt!! man Get Meat..MEEEAAATTT.
the guy is clearly stuck in the old ideal that the man is the bread winner.
on a lighter note kick him out. and find someone worth your time.
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