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writes: A year ago I found out my girlfriend of 5 years cheated on me 2 years ago. It took time and I was heartbroken but I got over this and forgave her. Then I found out that she was still speaking to this guy - she had told me previously that she wasn't anymore. I asked her to stop as I couldn't cope with this and said she could either choose me and cut off links or carry on talking to this guy (even just as a friend). She agreed at the time. Then I recently found out she was still talking to him. It should be over but I can't bring myself to finish it. I still love her lots and thought we were in it for the long run. She says that she didn't think it was wrong as it was such a long time ago and now they were good friends. she says she wont speak again and realises why it was wrong now. when i initially found out about the cheating obviously trust was shattered. We gradually built it up again but again it was damaged when I initially found out she was still in touch with him. Now all trust has completely been shattered yet again. I'm so confused, on one hand I love her so much and am still IN love with her after all this time, but there are now serious problems with trust.I'd just be grateful to receive any comments. cheers
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reader, DocSilverback  +, writes (7 January 2007):
 A year ago you gave her a second chance. Now you feel pretty much like you've been cheated on again. You said a mouthful when you said that the trust has been shattered. Without trust pal, you have nothing in a relationship. Now that is your call if you choose to wonder throughout this relationship. Good luck to you.
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reader, Darlene +, writes (6 January 2007):
 well i believe evryone deserves a second chance.but once
bitten twice shy.if she really loved you she'd never have cheated to begin with.if she is talking to him behind your back something else is probably going on too.trust is very important once it is broken it rarely ever is the same
again.you love her and it would hurt you to let her go.
but a being hurt now could save you a lifetime of pain .
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2007): Hi m8,
Well ive bin in this exact situation, which resulted in arguments and problems with trust. So we broke up. Now if theres no trust in the relationship then ur best move would be to finish and find someone you can trust. And if she loved you, she wouldn't have cheated on you. Hope this helps. Chris.
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