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writes:Thanks for your help in advance. There's a girl I like, whom I think likes me. This is why I have a question. It all starts six months ago. First, I was havings others give her notes. She kept the first, but threw away the rest, as she got sick of them. I know it was cowardly of me, but I just didn't have the guts at all to tell her face-to-face that I remotely liked her. Next, I started shouting that I loved her in the halls. This caused her to become fed up with me, so she told the English teacher. She told me to knock it off. I felt horrible about it, b/c apparently people were teasing her about it. After this she also got fed up w/me staring at her across the cafeteria, so I quit that, too.All that was last school year, at the end. She was in 7th grade, I in 8th. By now, it's been around 6 months. Now, I'm in highschool, and since she's in highschool classes (she was boosted up a grade minus Science courses for all her subjects) I'm in Advanced English and Global with her. This is when odd stuff started to happen between me and her, including:1.) She smiled at me and said hi whilst looking at me on the first day of Global, which, since I thought she hated me, completely blew me away. Of course, as luck usually has it, I chose that moment for my head to go fuzzy, my vision to blur, and dim my senses. Or at least, my brain did. 2.) She smiled at me in class, which I also found odd.3.) Every time I say hi to her in the hallways, she ignores me and keeps on walking. Someone told me she's prob'ly nervous if she likes me, like I am, but that seems like total bull when you take into account that replying to someone w/a simple "hi" or "Hello" should be easy if you'd done it before.4.) I was looking elsewhere, albeit in her direction, and she smiled at me. I didn't really comprehend this, and cocked my head back, still preoccupied w/whatever I had been looking at, and she did the same whilst continuing to smile.5.) Finally, recently our Highschool football team had their second-to-last game, and since it was a home game and school-year again, I had to play in band there. My friend saw me, and said "Oh, look, there's Collin" while stopping to talk to her, and she replied "Oh, yeah. Is it?" he responded "Yeah, it is". If you need additional info, Most, if not all, of my previous questions have been about her, so click my profile to see them and what I've posted.So, Agony Aunts, what d'you think's going on?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 September 2009):
She probably thinks you're some crazy stalker! I know it's not true, but she may be REALLY embarrassed. Best to apologize for everything (not an over the top apology - just a simple one) and ask if she'd still like to be friends and over. Believe me, when you were shouting at her, she probably was cringing! Though it was pretty brave! Don't do that again, and don't keep sending her notes. Just smile and say hello. See wher it goes from there.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (23 September 2009):
 lol, i find it amusing that you went from sending her notes because you were afraid... to then shouting that you love her in the halls. Either way dude, I hate to say it, but I dont think anything is happening. Just smiling and saying hello doesnt mean anything. Think about it.. If she's been boosted up a grade, wouldnt that mean that she's left all her friends in the lower grade? And wouldnt that mean that she might be a bit lonely and just be trying to reach out to these new people in this new class? Or maybe now that she's in your grade she is trying to be polite instead of having an awquard silence with you. The fact that she ignores you in the halls should be a pretty clear sign and I highly doubt its because she's nervous. I'd just ignore her to be honest, dont look at her, dont talk to her, but dont be too rude, (only say hi if she initiates it first and keep walking). Just have fun, talk to other girls and guys and just be yourself. In the highly unlikely circumstance that she does genuinely like you, you'll find out if you do all this. But just smiling is definately not a big enough sign that someone likes you. However, if she goes out of her way to talk to you, starts touching you on the arm, asks you what you're doing later, glances back over her shoulder at you and smiles then maybe you'd be safe to assume that something could be going on :)And quit with the shouting your love in the hallways, lol, tho I admire your bravado :)Best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2009): Unfortunatley, I think because of everything that happened last year you emarassed her or creeped her out. Most of the things you said you did to her are totally embarassing for a girl (minus the OCCASIONAL note), she may also think your a "creeper" for doing these things to her. You need to check your surroundings, is there anyone near you that she might be smiling at? or maybe she just feels awkward around you. in any case i would suggest you apologize to her about last year and ask her to start over with you and then you might have a chance with her. please take my advice, i have dealt with some boys that seem similar to me so i understand how she feels in this situation. talking to her and not being over the top about it is the best way to get her to like you.
Good Luck!!
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