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writes: I am of quite a young age, and the thing is i avoid getting fingered.I have been fingered before, and i am willing to give them the favour (hand job/blow job)But for some reason, i avoid getting fingered.All of my friends, are the complete opposite?How can i get over it? Reply to this Question
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reader, lisa newton  +, writes (17 January 2007):
if you are avoiding getting fingered then it must mean that you dont feel comfortable with it- dont worry about it.
its good that you arent letting yourself be pushed into doing it- so please dont give up now!
just because others are doing it doesnt mean you have to- different people like different things. maybe if you dont feel its right to be doing it then you are comfortable enough with that person.
dont let peer pressure get the better of u!! be strong!!
i hope my advice has been helpful to you and if you need anymore advice feel free to message me :)
lisa
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reader, kenny +, writes (14 January 2007):
 you are not doing anything that you feel uncomfortable with and that is good. So many people just do stuff for the hell of it, whether they are comfortable or not, maybe just to please their partner.
Stick by your guns, and don't do anything you feel uncomfortable with.
Good luck x
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (14 January 2007):
 If you're not comfortable with doing something then don't do it. Nobody should make you and you shouldn't make yourself by feeling this is not normal. This is normal. You said yourself, you're young, this is obviously not something you're ready for yet so don't panic.
As for you doing stuff to them, if you're not ready to embrace sex and all that comes with it and you're obviously not in a relationship, then why not take a step back for a while and decide whether you are ready for any of this? We sometimes think we're so grown up but sometimes, our body and mind are telling us that this is not right and we should wait.
Listen to thse feelings, take a break from guys until you feel comfortable enough with someone to enjoy it all properly.
Good luck
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (14 January 2007):
 Well, as you said, you're quite young. I don't know how young but it doesn't matter. Maybe subconsciously you feel that you're not ready have someone else touch you there, and that's okay. Don't let anybody touch you until you feel ready. In fact, if you don't particularly enjoy "giving favors" then don't do that either. Wait until you feel that you want to do it.
And just because you're friends enjoy something doesn't mean that you have to enjoy the same thing.
Some of my friends really like aubergine, I can't stand it. I wouldn't dream of eating aubergine just because my friends love it.
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (14 January 2007):
 not all people like it, and second of all dont bow down to peer presure because others are doing it you dont have to follow suit..i think youll get over it when you want it to be done i think in youre minds eye you dont want it done, but u dont mind giving..and since youre young of age that might factor to it.. hope this helps xxx A
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reader, ingotblue +, writes (14 January 2007):
 would you really want to?
when you meet some one you love then you wont even want to force yourself because it will come naturally.
Why do you want to grow up so soon?
If the answer is because all your friends are doing it well thats just not good enough.
you have to be who you are not who your friends what you to be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2007): Please DONT get over it. If you dont feel like it then dont do it! Trust me when you find a guy you really like he may be put off by the fact that other guys hav fingered you anyway. I kno when i was younger i prefered girls that didnt get up to those sort of things! Theres no point being intimate just for the sake of it.
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