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*isa9101
writes:I don't know where to turn. Six years ago I met a man online, after talking for over a year online, I went to visit him and fell in love. I packed my things and moved from Pennsylvania to Alaska for him. I gave up everything adn our life together was rockey at first, but we made it through and came out stronger (or so I thought). Last weekend we went to dinner at a coworkers ( she became one of my very close friends). Everyone was drinking except me. I took one of the partgoers home. When I came back to pick up my boyfriend, I heard my friend whisper...don't say anything. We left to go home, and when we got home, the dog was going nuts and kept sniffing my boyfriends crotch(made me think something was fishy...in more ways then one) when he was getting ready for be, I seen there was stains all over the front of his boxers. Needless to say, there was a big blow up. He admitted to having sex with her, but used the excuse he was drunk. I called my so called friend and told her she could have him, and they can live a happy drunk life together. She returned my call and said nothing happened that he tried to put the moves on her but she told him no because I was her bestfriend. Needless to say, now his story changes and he says they did not do anything, he just said that because I would not stop asking him. What should I do, I work with her and I moved 1000's of miles away from my family to be with this man.
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reader, Rebeccaa  +, writes (27 April 2011):
 I am so sorry!
Move back, he'll soon realise what he did was a mistake and regret it, you are clearly so much better than the woman he cheated with, you gave up everything for him, and he goes and throws it right back in your face! Find somone better you deserve it!
Good luck :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2011): I am so sorry this happened to you. You have given up alot to make this work, and the thought of starting over again must be hard . Try ot have a good long honest talk with your BF asap. Hopefully, you wil get an insight and see what you need to do, or if things can be worked out and patched up . Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.. the demon drink.
I wish you luck. x NM x
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (26 April 2011):
 Talk about a kick in the private parts, i think it's probably for the best though you can now go about your own life with this in your rear-view mirror. Good luck and run like H e double L.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 April 2011):
 There is no crime in moving back.
you are young... you have your whole life ahead of you
no sense spending it with a man you do not trust.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (26 April 2011):
 Are you better off with the job in Alaska? I know I'd rather cut off my right arm than live there but if you really like your job then maybe you can get past all this. Of course you need to get rid of the boyfriend and find your own place to live.You also will have to learn to work around your "friend". If you think it might just be too difficult then certainly move back to Pennsylvania and start fresh.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (26 April 2011):
 OUCH! Talk about a double whammy! Your man and work are now tainted pretty badly. You know the truth though. Something happened. Of that you can be sure.
She's definitely not a friend if she'd fuck your BF while you were giving someone a ride home. Your BF is a jerk for either submitting to her advances, or making advances of his own. Now, you're left wondering what to do, and there is no easy answer there either.
Honestly, I'd be tempted to pack up and move back home, leaving this whole situation behind me. If you really like your life there, you might want to find a new job and get out of your living situation with your BF. Either way, I think you're going to have to make some serious life changes. It really sucks that you'll be the one who suffers the most here. You have my sympathy.
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