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writes:ive been dating my girlfriend for a while now by far the longest relationship i have ever had and all i want is to make her happy but lately we've been fighting, she has been sick but her rudeness and attitude is just been getting really bitchy and im not doing anything to annoy her the other night i asked her what was wrong she wouldnt tell me and told me to stop asking... later i was talking to one of our mutual friends and he told me she talked to him about what was bothering her i dont know what to do or say to her Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2011): Sometimes they may really want your attention and care but are reluctant to just tell you straight up... you may have to over-reassure her that you really care about her and about whether you did something to upset her. Be patient and let her know that you won't judge her or push her to tell you anything she doesn't want to, but that where you're coming from is only that you really care.
If you make an effort to show that you are non-judgmental (you may not think you are appearing judgmental at all, but others may take things differently so this may take extra effort), she should start to feel more secure confiding in you. Eventually she may also no longer feel what triggers her to give you a bad attitude.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (26 April 2011):
 If she's not willing to talk to you about it, but willing to talk to someone else, that means the problem likely has something to do with you, but she doesn't have the courage to tell you what it is.
You might want to say to her something along the lines of: "I know you're upset right now. It pains me that you won't talk to me about it, so I'm going to give you some space. I hope you'll talk to me about whatever it is when you're ready." Then take a step back for a bit. Pressing the issue will likely make it worse.
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