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writes:Ive been really missing my boyfriend recently because weve both been away and had alot of stuff on. I havent had sex with him for about a month and tbh i really want to and really am missing it.When i talked to this to my best friend she suggested i could try masturbation because i really want to orgasm soon. I thought this was a good idea but then i dont know is mastubation wrong?I decided to try out a bit anyway and just rubbed myself. However i did it through my underwear and couldnt bring myslef to do it directly probably becos i was quite sure what i was doing? i got quite wet though.i want to try it again but id like some advice if anyone can becos i want to do it properley if people think its ok to be doing.One thing is when i did it, afterwards i felt kinda of bad and that i had been doing something wrong. was it wrong to do it. im nearly 16 (:thanks (: x
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reader, uncle Frank  +, writes (13 September 2009):
 Nothing wrong with masturbating as long as is done with CLEAN fingers or toys, like a dildo or a vibrator. By now, 2 months have gone past since you logged your question, you have had some encouraging replies by other readers.The feeling of guilt comes from church people who, not really knowing what the Bible says sex, masturbation, love-making or rape, say that any form of self pleasure is wrong or even sinful. It is not! In the ten commandments there is one that is directed at men and not at women (The Tenth):so you are free to lust after your neighbour's husband, but you are not allowed to have him penetrating you if you already belong carnally to another man. So you may not have sex with a second man while the first one is alive (Romans 7:v.2,3).Nor can you have sex with an animal (Leviticus 18:v.23)But:Lie on your bed and think about your boy friend and what you would like him to be doing to you. Close your eyes and feel your own body, caressing yourself imagining that it is him doing it. Rub your nipples gently and feel how they respond by becoming hard and stiff. Keep rubbing one at the time while you slowly move your dominant hand towards your pubic area and eventually reach the spot at the top of the vagina that hides and protects your clitoris (the very sensitive bundle of nerves covered by very thin, sensitive skin).If it is still dry, moisten your finger(s) with your own saliva and try feeling this thing that looks like a tiny penis and is normally covered by a protective hood.As you touch it and rub it or massage it, it will send the strongest impulses of sheer pleasure into the very deepest parts of your body and get a response from your nipples and your ovaries and womb, while your heartbeats speed up: it is the beginning of pleasure and eventually of an orgasm, the peak of the masturbation exercise.This clitoris is matched in a way by the 'G' spot (so called by Dr. Ernest Grâfenberg, who discovered it, studied it and described it in medical journals)which is a very sensitive area situated in the front wall of your vagina. You cannot reach this area while you lie down: you need to sit on your folded legs and insert a finger (or the whole hand) deeply inside yourself to get there.Keep rubbing your clit and the internal lips (inner labia) of your quimm (with moistened fingers at least until your fanny produces sufficient juices of its own), and you will in the end experience beautifully enjoyable orgasms.You may like to keep rubbing even after it as by doing that slower and slower you will avoid feeling too guilty, because you will be calming your body down while still pleasuring yourself. If you reach 'multiple orgasms' soon after you try for the first time: so much the better as you will feel your body responding to localized sexual stimuli.You should do this when, after your boy friend has ejaculated inside or outside you, he is spent and tired and you have not 'cum' yet. This way you can make yourself also 'cum' and possibly arouse your b/f sufficiently to 'take' you again.You can also make your own dildo by cutting about 300 mm of the rounded end of a broom handle and covering it with two condoms (so they don't break) and holding them at the end with one or two rubber bands well and tightly wound so the condom don't slip off. If you wind some rubber bands towards the rounded end of the stick before putting the condoms on it will increase the pleasure it gives you once inside. The condoms are there so you can wash the toy before and after using it and oil it with Virgin olive oil on it for easy entry ...It is not a sin to masturbate.It is a sin for a man if he envisage or fantasize to be having sex with a married female when he masturbate.Enjoy! God loves you!uncle Frank
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2009): masturbation is perfectly normal, alot of ppl do it(even if they dont admit it lol) its ur body and u should feel comfortable exploring it, and it is always good to know what u like
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2009): I do it all the time and don't feel one ounce of guilt. If you want a real kick get a vibrator. The nice thing about this form of sex is that you know what you like and don't have to play those pathetic guessing games with guys. Plus, it is disease free and you won't get pregnant. Good for you and welcome to the club!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2009): There's nothing wrong with what you're doing hun, nearly everybody does it it's just that girls don't usually admit to it. It can actually improve your sex life too because you know your own body and what you like much better x
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reader, Brokenin2 +, writes (2 July 2009):
I was the same when i was your age.. I didn't like touching myself as i felt dirty and disgusting before/after do it. Now im almost 20 and have bought my very first Rabbit from ann summers and used it last night. And I didn't feel dirty. Give it time.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (2 July 2009):
 hun masterbation is normal alot of girls do it but i totally get what you mean after i do it i felt dirty but there is nothing wrong with it guys do so do girls.
although girls are very prone to admit to it because girls feel it's wrong.
but continue to do it explore your body :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2009): No there is absolutely nothing wrong with masterbation, it's actually good for you.
As for technique that varies widely from person to person to person, so you will have to experiment to find what works for you. Don't be afraid of masterbating or feel guilty it's quite normal. I started when I was 13 and have pretty much done it every day since.
Privacy and discretion are essential, make sure you won't be disturbed.
Try stimulating your clitoris in different ways, whichever way feels the best stick with that.
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