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writes:The last year i was dating a man that he didn't give a lot of importance to our relationship so i don't call him any more. He doesn't call me either although in the past he used to call me once in a while. Although i don't want to continue with him if nothing would change - and i don't think that something will change ever- i feel unhappy. I feel really disappointed and i think that any relationship is very difficult. I really want to get over him but i don't really feel happy that we don't talk or see each other. However i don't want to be with him if he doesn't be more in the relationship. Should i keep on to this thought and try however to not think about him or should i admitt to him that i can't get over him?
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reader, noonespecial2  +, writes (2 July 2009):
Check out whether you are just lonely and whether your lonely feelings are what's making you doubt your decision.
Having contact with a person for the right reasons is vital. If you contact him through loneliness, it is pointless as he is still the same person he was when you were together.
If you really want to get over him, then completely cutting all contact is the fastest way for this to happen.
Also, remember, if you go back to him and he is still the same and not really committed to you and the relationship, this can feel more lonely that being separated.
Good luck.
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reader, sugar_sugar  +, writes (2 July 2009):
 You know the answer to this one yourself, you're just having a hard time accepting it and taking that final step.
He didn't place a lot of importance on your relationship, even after the time you two have spent apart he hasn't had any grand realisations, your phone is not ringing. Communication during the relationship didn't make him appreciate what he had, absence has not made the heart grow fonder, nothing has changed. It seems nothing will.
Every relationship has its hiccups, but not all are very difficult. Feeling like the relationship is important to you both is beyond a hiccup, it's an essential.
Move on.
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