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*987ark
writes:Ok so I'm with this guy for 2 1/2 yrs, we live together, we have roommates, dogs, the whole nine...anyway, we do fight a lot but I can honestly say I was too uptight. But also about other things like him cheating and then me cheating on him just to get back at him. Well we are trying to work things out and I go to visit my parents for the weekend and have a long conversation about how I need to decide whether or not I really love him. But while I'm gone he decides to have a little party and hook up with a girl that resembles the main attraction at Sea Wold. Mind you I have no idea what's going on back home. So I come home and decide I love him and want to be with him and we started to hang out more he would get me flowers and do sweet things for me then one night he just disappeared he wasn't home when I got home from work and I didnt see him untill 4am the next day. Any ways we broke up. I broke some things I moved out and he kept everything. So then he gets with Shamoo (as I like to call her) and he sees me a month after we break up and tries to be all flirty, so we hook up a couple of times but he ends up lying or I get to upset and we fight and stop talking and this goes on up untill this day on and off every few months. But now I am getting all of my ducks in a row and I want to move back to the place where I used to live which happens to be in the same area as my ex and we talk about getting back together and he says he still loves me and cares but when it really comes down to it he doesn't actully do it. And I would and have done anything for him. And I want to get back into this relationship with him because I love this guy with everything I am! My question is why? Why do I still love him after he has done all this and so much more? Why does it hurt so bad in my chest anytime I see a picture of them? Why do I care? Why do I still love my Ex?
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reader, Mig29  +, writes (3 December 2010):
well you had had trouble and now you are going out of your way to seek more trouble, deep down i do not think that you love him but the idea of love, also the relationship over the time cannot go away overnight, so you still get the pages and do not like being alone.
meet and date more people and with time you shall have him out of your system.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2010): After spending the last 2 and a half year living together, the feeling that you have for him has blossom. Sadly, the same cannot be said about his feeling for you. Your ex seems to be exploring his options while you are still all over him despite breaking off with him. Ask yourself, do you believe that he will remain faithful to you when the both of you get back together. Being 22-25, it is time you move on and stop being trap in the past. You are not ready to face your past and going back to the area where your ex works is not advisable at this moment. You are still young and I am sure you will find a guy that is devoted to you and whom you can trust and love just as deeply. Think about it.
Kguy
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reader, advisorX  +, writes (3 December 2010):
 2 things:
First: he is really in-love with you but he cant refuse sexual urges with other women. (you really need to guard him well.)
Second: he is just playing with you.
you get hurt everytime you see a picture of them because you are jealous, because you still love the guy. But you can get over it, you need time to heal a broken heart. If you really want to get over with it you should avoid him and all the stuffs and places that could remind you of him. As in no communication at all. If you can leave the place where he is right now, well do it.
You are really in-love with this guy but isnt it unfair not to feel mutual with your love to this guy? Try to open your heart to others and you will find one who is willing to love you back and wont hurt your feelings.
You can accept him back again if you want, but prepare to get hurt again.
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