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writes: Dear Cupid.I happen to have had a girlfriend who had a baby with some guy before we met. I also had a baby with my first girlfriend and she knows. Now the time came when she asked me that she wanted to go back to the father of her son and I thought that was a great idea since it was good for the child. For them to get back, I had to come in and ask the guy to forget whatever made them separate. The first reason was also suspicion that the girl was cheating on him. They are not married but she complains to me that her boyfriend is too posessive and very jealous. At the moment I'm not going out with this girl but we are just good friends and she doesn't want us to stop being friends because of her jealous boyfriend. I can't marry her coz I'm back to my first girlfriend and we are doing great. What should me and the girl do?
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reader, becky05 +, writes (9 August 2005):
Of course you cant marry her! Youre both with other people.
sHe made the decision to be with the father of her child and you helped her to do it. So when did you decide you want her back?
In my opinion, you have made your beds, now you must lie in them as there are children involved.
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reader, Helen05 +, writes (8 August 2005):
It is not always best for the child for their parents to be together, especially if they are not happy and there is a lot of jealousy.
This woman has asked you to let her go and even guide her into the arms of another man who is jealous and posessive. it sounds to me like she is regretting this decision and still wants you in her life. You need to be honest with her - she chose a different life and you are happy with another woman. Stay friends, it sounds like she needs you, but don't let her tempt you back if you are happy - it was her decision to leave you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2005): you have to remember that both of you have children, and it makes things an awfull lot complicated, because you continuing to be friends with this girl will result with arguments with her and her boyfriend, and this can be distruptive to the child. you also should consider that you were once involved with this girl and therefore continuing your friendship with her may also be distruptive with your own relationship with your girlfriend.
one of the things you will have to ask yourself is if you're in love with this girl. in which case it would be wise not to continue with your relationship with your current girlfriend. i'm presuming you do have feeling for this girl as you are contamplaiting marriage. if this is this the case it would be wise to decide wether she shares the same feelings for you.
one thing you have to remeber that life is short the years will pass you by, by this i mean that if you have strong feelings for this girl then you don't want to be regreting not doing something about it. having said this you must remember you are commited to your current girlfriend and more importantly your child.
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