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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid,I have a problem with my gf, she is working as a prostitute against my will. Nothing i do or say will stop her, i think it empowers her in some way.On top of this, she is acting insecure, hyper-jealous, irrational, temperamental, and like a possessive controller. The most simple situation can turn into a massive hate campaign towards me and all men in general. For instance we walked past a hairdressing salon today and i looked inside, instantly she started going off at me saying the only reason i looked was because there was a blond hairdresser inside and i was perving. Am i not allowed to have eyes in my head and look at things? I was actually looking at the hairdresser, not for sexual or perverted reasons. Mainly i was looking at an odd chair the hairdresser was sitting on whilst cutting. Yet in saying this it is OK for her to sleep with other men as a prostitute, she says it has no meaning or has no feelings for these men. I don't really care, feelings or not, the act of another man sleeping with her whilst in this relationship sickens me, and is a million times worse than looking into a hairdressers shop.I have never given her any reason for her not to trust me, i don't drink, go to pubs or clubs, interact with ANY female, she has shut any female friend i had out of our lives. I was heavily involved in a church when i met her and now don't go at all due to guilt and shame of the whole situation.What am i doing? I am being abused in two ways, first by her sleeping with other men, secondly by her insecurities.In saying all of this i do love and care for her, i just don't know if i can go on in a life of abuse.Help me get out of this relationship! I would like her to leave, but she wont, i have asked more than once. I am not abusive and will not resort to violence, the only option i can see is having her removed by the police. And i know that when it happens she will end up in hospital from self harm over the situation leaving me feeling guilty.please help
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (30 August 2010):
 It's ok for her to sleep with men for money but not okay for you to look? Guys are going to look it's typical male nature, just a quick look while we're not looking now if it's a stare and we catch you then you're getting it. You need to get out of this controlling woman's grip..she doesn't respect your relationship and she's cheating on you with various johns. It's not healthy for you she shut off your social life and even your relationship with God! If you have to resort to the authorities to physically remove her then so be it, maybe a night in jail will do her some good. Now if she does inflict pain upon herself then that's her problem now, not yours she chose to opt out of your relationship a long time ago when she chose prostituting over you. All you can go do now is pray for her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2010): *And i know that when it happens she will end up in hospital from self harm over the situation leaving me feeling guilty."
Don't let her use this to stop you ending things, that is what she is counting on, will not be your fault, if she does end up in hospital.
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