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writes:I went out my ex for 7 years, we had 2 beautiful kids together and yes we did a lot of things to hurt each other that was unforgivable. We broke up 3 years ago but continued to sleep together and spend a lot of time together. we last slept together about 5 weeks ago. he tells me 2 weeks ago that he is wantign to see another woman and he really likes her and what we have is now over, he has liked her for 2 months and this other woman had proclaimed to have have loved him for 3 years. I feel like I have been used and I found out the other day he is telling this woman that he wants to give her the world and he loves her so much and etc, I feel like such an idiot and I am so hurt and angry because of this. This woman has told me when she meets my kids she will treat them like her own but you will always be mum blah blah blah, this has hurt me. she has also split up with her boyfriend within the last week and he hasn't moved out yet, My ex wanted to be upfront and says he wants to still be good friends and not hirt me etc, but continues to talk about her and she gives him the run around but still says he loves him and she wants him. I do care and love my ex but don't want to see him hurt. I don't think I want him back but am hurt as it feel like 7 years has been thrown in my face. He dropped in a fact that he was thinking about us moving back in together and then something else happened(a previous isssue) but continueed to sleep with me and foolishly I gave in, all this happened around 2 months ago. have I been had seriously, where do I go from here?
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (30 August 2010):
 You were in that danger zone of being ex's and still sleeping together letting those old feelings get the best of you. Don't take him back it's completely over you two just aren't meant to be and there's better men out there! From seeing the guys pour their heart out on their site I've got the proof that good men still exist. Look at this way, you got 2 children out of him the best thing that happened to you. Set up an arrangement with him when he can take the kids etc. and keep the relationship at that nothing more..And find yourself a better man!
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (28 August 2010):
 So sorry doll but I think he was having his cake and eating it too. Chalk this up to a life lesson and move on. Don't beat yourself up it's not worth it. Get out and meet some new people by joining some special interest groups e.g book club, cooking class, stained glass class etc anything you are interested in. Limit your contact with your ex to child related stuff only. Don't tell him anything about yourself, your feelings or your movements anymore. Good luck doll you will be ok give yourself some time to be you not someone's girlfriend.
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