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writes:I'm really worried about a friend of mine, she is becoming obsessed with what she eats. She has started writing a 'food diary' with what she eats every day, I looked at it and it has things like 'half a bowl of soup', 'half a mars bar' etc. I'm really worried about her because she is one of my best friends. Her family are also worrying about her, and she says that she is not anorexic, at the moment I don't think she is, but if it gets any worse I'm inclined to start being seriously worried.I love her to bits (as a friend) but I cannot help wondering if she's doing this for attention, as her life at home is difficult. I don't know what to think.I really don't want to loose our friendship as we have helped each other through thick and thin. However I am at a loss as to what to do. Any advice would be great, thank you for taking the time to read this.
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (12 November 2007):
 My advise would be to just sit down and talk, casually (not specifically about this). Maybe you can say you want to start a diet with her. I think she might have gotten some advise about dieting and she is taking it a bit extreme, but I don't think (at this point) there could be a real issue at hand. There are a lot of diet programs that ask you to write down what you eat so you have a diary of calories intake that will help you loose weight.
If she is a little overweight she might want to do something about it and that is not a bad thing, however seriously she takes it. It could be a bad thing if she stops eating or starts binges that end with vomiting. My advise would be to stay as close as you can, do not nag her for dieting. Get a little closer so you can have information on whats really going on. If she starts with symptoms of anorexia or bulimia TELL HER PARENTS. Try to help her as well but she will need professional help to deal with these other illnesses.
Good luck!
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reader, Emaz help +, writes (12 November 2007):
 Well i personally wouldn't ask her about these things yet.
I would give her a lot of compliments about the way she looks
She may just feel down about herself
but if it does get serious and she starts loosing weight then aske her about it, but in a casual kind way, if she doesn't want to talk about it then don't push her to, you'll only push her away by doing that.
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reader, superdopah +, writes (12 November 2007):
if it is an eating disorder, she is doing it for attentionn but not the kind you think she is crying out for help. if she has a troubled home life which is out of her control, food which she can control her amount she consumes becomes a vent. keep an eye on her weight, do not pressure her about eating this will push her further from you. hopefully before it gets to bad she will go to the doctors. but i would advise you to look some info on eating disorders on the internet. it can be really inciteful.
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