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writes:Call me naive but, I'm a little confused as to what my ex is trying to say in a text message he recently sent to me. I have not spoken to my ex in 9 months. Since he left me and became involved with someone else. It was my idea to sever all ties in order to move past the pain he caused me. Back in Nov. he did send me a text saying just hi and then again, the same text 2 weeks before Christmas- I ignored both which I am glad that I did seeing as I received news from his family that he had been broken up with her for a short while during the time that he sent the first text. Anyways, I have just recently once again, received a text with just a question mark. One of the things that drove me nuts during our relationship was the constant head games. He could never just come out and let me know what was bothering him. He would react in certain ways which signaled to me that there was a problem but, he would never just come out and talk about it. When I would ask him what was wrong his response was always, "Nothing is wrong" but, I knew better thus, I would get paranoid and anxious causing us to argue about things that really did not touch on the issue at hand. It was a very frustrating situation to live through at times especially, since I had a tendency to take things personally when in fact these things sometimes had nothing to do with me. I have heard through the grapevine that things are not good with the relationship he is in now and that he regrets what he did to me plus has stated to a mutual friend that he screwed up and lost his best friend (Me). I have not put too much heed into what I am told-as far as I'm concerned if he still cannot come to me after all these months and tell me how he feels just shows me that things have not changed with him. He is still playing games instead of saying what is on his mind and pretending that things are just wonderful with him when in fact they are not. Now comes the question mark in the text - just out of curiosity can anyone tell me what there thoughts are and what he may be trying to say? Yes, I realize that I should just let this go but, for some reason I can't get this particular text out of my mind. Your help would be appreciated.
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reader, Kilcardy +, writes (27 February 2011):
Might I ask why this matters to you? You had the right idea to sever all ties in order to help you get over the pain he caused you. So...you need to stick with that. Do yourself a favor -- don't sit around wondering what some cryptic post means from a guy who screwed you over.
But, just to satisfy your curiosity in the hope you will move past this "text" issue, here is my translation of the text: "Hey sweety pie, I know how easy you are to mess with so I figured I'd send you a one symbol text in the hope that you will be thinking about me. I need to think that you are thinking about me because my self-esteem needs a boost. I don't really care about you all that much, but I like to have women wonder what I'm up to. It makes me feel good about myself. Hope my text has messed up your mind a little bit. I'll talk to you soon -- on my terms. Hugs, Your Narcissistic Former BF."
Just ignore him. Good luck.
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reader, JDinCali +, writes (27 February 2011):
 It can be that after you two broke up and he occasionally said, "Hi", that it's because he was finally at liberty to contact you and address his guilt for hurting you. However it's more likely he sent a text because, basically he'd rather be with someone, than be alone. You're right, move on. Don't let him treat you like the back burner on a stove. You deserve a guy who's truly interested in you and won't take you for granted. Also, a man who can get what he wants all the time can become like a spoiled child and hates it when he can't. His ego is busted and he's sexually deprived, text him back, "Cry me a river Justin Timberlake and stop contacting me. It's over."He's rather selfish and inconsistent, you deserve everything a man can give, because that's what a man does when he really loves you. Wish you the best!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2011): Well in my relationship, if I send a text that just has '?' in it, it usually means that i'm thinking 'why arn't you replying to my texts?'He could have sent it for a number of reasons; to make you think about him, to irritate you, to make you paranoid, or simply just because he wants to speak to you. He might be confused as to why he's not getting any replies.However, I think it's a good thing you didn't reply. Who needs head games?
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