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writes:this is a question for people that are engaged or have been engaged.......... Truthfully when you are engaged to somebody do you EVER fancy/fantasize about somebody else. Say for example, you see somebody regularly and then think 'oh actually they are quite hot, I fancy them!' But I mean a long term thing, not just a spare of the moment. I suppose I'm asking if you are curious? Question is open to male and females, would love to hear both views!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (6 October 2011):
 I'm married not dead... of course you look at others and find them attractive... it's the adults that say "nice" then go home and love on their partner...
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reader, charliesdevil73 +, writes (6 October 2011):
 Yes, sometimes I fantasize about other men. I'm sure my fiance fantasizes about other women too. It's a natural thing to do, just make sure it stays fantasies and nothing more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2011): well i'm married and when i was engaged sure i see somebody else and think wow he's hot but i never wanted to be with the other person. The bottom line is your human so you can't turn off being attracted to someone else, but if the feeling of someone else is overwhelming as if you wish you could have him instead of your fiance then maybe it's not so much that you want to be with one of the men you fancy but you're having second thoughts about your situation altogether which is perfectly normal because marriage is a huge step. Before you get married sometimes your mind sends different thoughts through your head because you know your life will never be the same again. So this is what I think your situation is you realize that those hot men you see are no longer something you can pursue, but that usually goes away after awhile its just nerves kicking in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2011): No, especially not long term. I would see that as a problem personally, is there something missing in your relationship that you're searching for in other people? I think when you're satisfied in a committed relationship, you don't feel the need to fancy other people, at least that's how I am, I'm not interested in anyone else, don't fancy anyone else, I'm happy with my boyfriend though he does "fancy" or look at other attractive women which hurts me. Personally I'm 100% against it, maybe it's just me but I feel disgusted, hurt, heartbroken at the thought of my boyfriend fancying other girls and I don't agree in fancying others while in a committed relationship, I personally think it's wrong.
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reader, Uncle Charlie +, writes (6 October 2011):
As a guy that has been married for a number of years I must say that both my wife and I have had fantacies regarding other people. Anyone from movie stars to the check out girl at the local supermarket,,,it happens. It does not mean that a mate does not love you any less.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2011): You will always come across people who you are attracted to. We are meant to feel attraction. How you handle it is most important. Let's face it, people marry, divorce and fall in love again all the time. And if you think about it, the person they fall in love with the second time was out there somewhere all along. The world is full of many potential mates for all of us. It is circumstance that pairs us up. Once you decide to commit to a relationship, it's dedication that makes it work. Whoops, I forgot to log in....this is eddie
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