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writes:I asked my 36 year old boyfriend just before Christmas if there was someone else (as he had been acting 'off' for several months). He hasn't spoken to me since. Do I take it from this that he was seeing someone else or was he offended that I asked him? I sent him several texts just before Christmas and a Christmas card but I still didn't hear from him so just didn't bother contacting him after that. I hoped that he would eventually miss me and make contact but he hasn't. I think that is what hurt the most. I was very much in love with him as he was such a lovely person so for him to do this to me is so out of character for him. We agreed that things hadn't been working out but we never officially broke up and I figured that we would work on the relationship. I text his best friend's wife and sent a message to his sister-in-law to wish them a Happy Christmas too, neither of whom contacted me back. I considered myself good friends with them all so it really hurts that they have turned their back on me too.I don't think I'd have believed it if he had told me he hadn't been with someone else and that would have made his behaviour even weirder to explain.Most of the time I feel o.k but as time goes by and he doesn't contact me I sometimes get down thinking that I have lost my buddy and lover forever. I think he is quite a sensitive soul underneath so probably didn't take kindly to being accused of something, however I have feelings too. I tell myself that maybe he never loved me at all, but I am sure that it isn't true. We were together for 2 1/2 years.Do you think he was seeing someone else?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (11 February 2010):
I'm afraid to say I think he was. You don't just throw 2 years away through silence. The fact he hasn't got back shows that he wasn't interested if nothing else. He had weird behaviour beforehand and this says that he was up to something. What a coward for not telling you it was over though. I think you'll find you'll be better off without him. Be brave and move on.
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