A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:i got a question and its kinda confussion abit i guess!today is my birthday and last night my bf and i went out to the club and he had gotten real jealious over a guy buying me a drink and asking me for my number, but you see i didnt accept the drink even thow the guy tried to force it on me and i told him i was in a relationship. so this guy pours the drink all over me as my bf says back off!! well my bf got real mad not at me, him and toke him out side for a good beating which i never seen before hes not the jealious type but this man was pretty much forcing a drink down my throat and then poured it on me making my bf mad and upset.i was so a shamed of what happend i toke a cab home and told him i cant believe he made a big deal out of it and he said i should have let you to be then sorry for stepping in i thought i was your man and you looked as you needed some help but i guess you didnt and he bed me good night and i didnt hear from him in till today in an email as he spent the night at hes friends saying this ------------------------------- I love you more everyday my lovelife with out you is the end of everything as you are my life, i breath for you and wake each and every day just to hear you say i love you once again.i am sorry for the things that have happend lately and i love you more than you'll ever know baby.happy birthday i wish you would forgive me for being over jealious and let me take you out tonight and show you how a queen is to be treated as i can admit i have not treated you as the goddes you are for that i feel real low and makes me cry at night hoping i dont lose you as to me your so perfect and i want to be with you alwaysi will try to understand more, be there for you and not be so jealious of other guys i love you beautiful!!!!do you for give me ? we always said we would be together forever!come on baby please please i dont want to be away from you can i come home and work this out ?i really love you, im so madly in love with you love micheal well my question is this should i be sorry too ???or should i forgive him and say its ok?i dont feel as its hes fault i know he was looking out for me !!!!!!what should i do about this ??????please help
View related questions:
I love you Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyou see i wasnt mad but upset and he stepped in way before the guy threw the drink on me i was ignoren the guy and trying to talk with my sister and mom who joined us for a drink and dancing as my family is close and the guy threw a drink on me and i was real upset at all had happend not him and he said sorry before i got the chance to really and toke him out for lunch and told him why i got upset not of him sticking up for me or any thing just the drink was a shock to my suprize as my bf was telling him to back up and the guy told him to make him and boom it all happend and i was ashamed as our friends and family were there and i really didnt seem to stick up for my self and lucky the police didnt come as i was scared he would go to jail and lose hes job and everything i think more than any thing worry toke over me and ididtnt mean to be upset toward him but we made up and everything is better now and i love him so much i feel terrible how i acted that night but thank you
A
female
reader, i might be a girl but i can help  +, writes (18 September 2007):
 that guy deserves everything he got none of my guy friends would let him do that i would be thankful but like you a little upset what if he got hurt as well. over all forgive him he was looking out for like any normal bf should do and good luck together and that email aww cute.
...............................
A
male
reader, Jamer70 +, writes (18 September 2007):
 Man!! i would have done exactly the same thing no question. How dare some guy treat you like that, he deserve to get his but kicked. How would you have felt if he stood back and allowed it to continue, to let this guy go on. Forgive your BF as he was looking at for you as he should be, and its not jelousy as he is dating you and you didnt flirt with the man as that wouldbe jelousy. He was just defending you.
Just move past this and forget it.
...............................
A
male
reader, rcn +, writes (18 September 2007):
 He was looking out for you, but inappropriately. You had yourself covered, he should have let you handle the issue.
I would be worried about the jealousy. His e-mail looked as if he's a bit more dependent on the relationship its self.
I would say forgiving him would be OK, but also include, all though forgiven you don't excuse his behavior. He acted beyond what he should. He embarrassed you, to be the hero, when you didn't need him to be.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2007): I think the guy who poured a drink on you deserved what he got. You are lucky your bf stepped in for you. At the same time I can understand your shock and humiliation about the whole incident. And you felt it was unnecessary for your bf to beat that guy up. In fact I am surprised the police didn't get involved. It all sounds like a shitty night. But I would not be mad at your bf. I would expect my bf to beat the shit out of a guy who threw his drink on me. Of course. I would beat the shit out of a guy who threw a drink on me. What a loser.
Anyways kiss and make up with your guy. He loves you and was trying to protect you and I think he did the right thing. So don't be mad at him. Oh and you don't have to tell him that you are sorry but you could if you felt that you did something hurtful to him. I don't know. I wasn't there. But I am sure he understands your reaction and how you felt. Don't worry about it.
...............................
A
male
reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (18 September 2007):
 Wow. You are angry at your bf for protecting you from the attacker that threw a bottle of beer on you, and you are making him ask you for forgivness?
Is this question for real?
How you would have felt if your bf did NOTHING to that other guy, BUT instead cheered him on, and blamed YOU for leading on the other guy into hitting on you? Com'on.
He was not acting out of jealousy, he was trying to protect you, and send a message to everyone that you are not to be attacked or victimized.
I think you're bf should be valued and appreciated for what he did, and if you really can not see that, maybe you should free him so that he can be with a woman that appreciates him. I can not believe you turned on him after he was there for you.
One day, he is going to realise that it is YOU that should be apologising to him for this instead of the way this played out.
-Frank B Kermit
...............................
A
male
reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (18 September 2007):
I get the impression that he was looking after you as opposed to showing jealousy. He stepped in to defend you once the drink was poured over you - not before when the other guy was flirting. Stepping in earlier would have indicated a jealous nature. Stepping in when he did - well - looks like to me that he was defending your honour.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2007): hi i know i would have reacted in exactly the same way,how dare some bloke show so much disrespect to you and im a female
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you and you are right and we have worked things out
you see that was our second fight in 5 years together
so i didnt realy know what to do
thanks again and take care
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2007): he loves you. Accept him back. Men lose thier temper. I mean if a random guy threw a drink on my girlfriend i wouldn't even bother takin him to the side. I'll teach him a lesson on the spot. His a great guy. He clearly loves you and its sweet he cares alot. Oh and happy birthday! :)
...............................
|
