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writes:Met this guy on internet dating site. Texted, only, for 5 weeks, and then we arranged to meet. Because he works till late.... he came to my house.... I was sure he was someone I could trust. Of course, our texting was mostly of a sexual nature... and sure enough we had sex. (He is 10 years younger than me). All went well, and we got on so well... I saw him again, but had my period so we just talked and kissed.... and arranged to meet again.... but then he texted me to say he liked me loads, and fancied me, but didn't want a fuck buddy. Fuck buddy! I had never said I wanted that, and it was on my profile I wanted a long term relationship! I tried to win him back by text, but he stopped texting. I sent him one a couple of days ago, and he said he has a lot on his plate, but will text me sometime! I am livid with him, but I really like him... and am wondering what I can do to get him back.... if anything!
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reader, shna  +, writes (31 January 2009):
 I'm sorry he was such an asshole to you, you deserve better then that, everybody deserves respect. Lessons learned from the first time round though. Never invite a stranger to your house, he could have been anybody, he could have been really ugly. Never have sex on the first go. . . mabye the second(giggle ) I hope you get on better next time
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reader, salvadda  +, writes (30 January 2009):
 Just so other ppl read this.DON'T every invite a guy to your place that you don't know. Never have sex on the first date it gives him the wrong impression. What ever happened to meeting ppl in the real world. Internet is fine for commuicating, but it takes time to know to someone. Don't believe everything you read.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2009): Guys go on the net just for sex. That's it. It doesn't matter what you say on your profile, or what you're looking for, they look for women who's pants they think they can get into. You gave it up to him the first time you met. He took it and ran. Don't trust guys you meet on the net. They're nothing but trouble.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2009): Let's cut things short with this cliche. He's just not that into you. Period.
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reader, 48years  +, writes (29 January 2009):
 Rather than bash men, remember that the first, second and third dates are really a test of how willingly you'd give up everything for a man. If you give in too soon, you are not worth fighting for.
Things really haven't changed in 1000's of years - the tv shows which promote easy sex are NOT REALISTIC.
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reader, Ed1337 +, writes (29 January 2009):
 I'm not a big fan of online dating anymore, its too easy for people to pretend to be someone they aren't. I met someone off the internet and we texted each other constantly for a few weeks, she seemed really innocent at the time, but the texts turned very dirty and we ended up being intimate after the 2nd "date". It ended a week later lol. If I ever give it another go, I will make sure things go a lot slower, so I can discover their issues before I do anything with them. It sounds like he has used you for sex, just give him some space, there is a very slim chance he might have a lot on his plate.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (29 January 2009):
 As emily said below... "It's a sad fact because it's 2009, but men's brains seem to be stuck in the 1850's so you just have to learn not o get sexual so soon with a guy off the net."
I'd say men's brains are actually stuck in 10,000 BC (our brains haven't really changed since then).
I agree with Emily. If you want to build a long term relationship focus on getting to know someone for a while before becoming sexual. Many men (though not all of course) will stop seeing you as long term girlfriend material if you have sex right away. Every situation is different, but it's a good rule of thumb
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (29 January 2009):
You sent him sexy texts and then you had sex with him. It's not like you went on a date and discussed what films you like and what you want in the future.
It's a well established fact that if you have sex on the first date then a guy will just see you as someone to have sex with and not relationship material.
It's a sad fact because it's 2009, but men's brains seem to be stuck in the 1850's so you just have to learn not o get sexual so soon with a guy off the net.
Good Luck!! xx
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