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writes:Some very good female friends of mine, which I know since we were young, were really mean (to say the least) to this other girl when they met her in college. This girl now happens to be my girlfriend of almost a year, and soon to be my fiancée. One of them is getting married soon, and invited us to her wedding. My girlfriend said we should go, and that she didn't mind even though she doesn't like them at all, but she'll do it for me, and besides other friends will be there, so it's ok. But them being the *witches* I know they are I am not comfortable as they might make my gf feel unwelcome or uncomfortable. So I don´t really want to go, no matter whatever social engagement I might have with her, and of course putting my girlfriend in first.Not to mention I already had something special planed out for that night.Should I "listen" to my gf and attend the wedding or LISTEN and not go?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 May 2011):
 A wedding invitation is not a royal summons,you are not obliged to go ( unless it's the wedding of someone in your immediate family or of your closest friends ). Since you already had other plans, courteously decline and save yourselves the hassle.
This is a valid reason not to go- the other one ( your gf may feel uncomfortable ) a bit less. I mean, it's nice of you to be so protective of her, but she is an adult and if she said she could handle it... she could handle it.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (5 May 2011):
 What exactly is your opinion of them? You seem to agree with your girlfriend that they are not the most pleasant of people to be around. Do you spend a lot of time with those two close friends? If not, I would suggest not going. For two reasons:
1. You obviously love your girlfriend a lot and you don't want her to feel uncomfortable. This is the woman you seem to be planning to spend the rest of your life with and you want to see her happy
2. It isn't worth it. You don't even want to go, and you don't even seem to really like those close friends of yours so don't go and make both your girlfriend and yourself, happy.
Even if it is only one night, your girlfriend being forced to go to an even where the person of the moment is somewhat hostile toward her, may result in her getting hurt. You know those people better than I so really, only you know if what I've said is actually applicable to your situation and your relationship with these three people.
I hope that helps.
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