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female
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*liceinunderland
writes:There's this guy that likes me in my year. When I say like I mean, he literally worships me. He makes me cake, buys me things, invites me out. He practically does anything for me. Thing is. I've been out with him before and I just don't feel anything for him other than friendship. I've told him this and he seems to accept it. But lately he's been texting me loads and posting on my wall on facebook, with things that say "Who would you do anything for because you love them?" and he answered me. It's starting to get creepy now, and so is the way he looks at me. With so much love!I just can't show him any of the same kind of feelings! But I don't want to lose a very good friend. What should I do?
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (5 May 2011):
 Just have a quiet word with him (in person) and explain that his behaviour is getting a bit too intense and you feel uncomfortable hence you would like him to maybe back off a little bit. Explain that you have talked about this before and he knows you will never be anything more than friends, so you would really appreciate it if he could start acting more like a friend rather than someone who has a very strong crush. Tell him that you really appreciate his friendship and dont want to lose him as a friend, but he has to try and control his feelings a bit more.
Also - you need to stop encouraging him with this crush! DONT ever accept any gifts from him (no more cakes etc), NEVER go out with him just the 2 of you, dont let him go out of his way to do anything for you. It sounds like you are letting him act this way and just dont say anything when he acts this way, you need to discourage him as much as you can! I know it might feel a bit nasty or mean, but you have to be cruel to be kind here.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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