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writes:My bf and I have very different jobs: I work for a very large corporation in management while he has a very manual job in a construction company. We talk a lot about our jobs and what happened at work and so on. While I get the type of environment he works in, I feel like sometimes it's hard for me to explain everything that is going on at my job. So when he asks me how my day was, it's sometimes a little complicated to explain if he want to know all the details. Only my co-workers would probably understand what I'm talking about, so I'm really questioning how much detail i should really share with him. While I would love for him to really understand what I do all day, I feel like sometimes it's not worth the aggravation of trying to lay it all out for him to get the full picture and give me his opinion. Which brings me to is question: how much do you share with your significant other about your work? I know people who don't talk about it at all and others like me who share a lot. I'm at a point where I almost need to show him an org chart of my department! Any advice?
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reader, ihavetoomanythoughts  +, writes (9 March 2013):
 I usually tell him about the people. Sometimes I tell him about my projects as well, if something really interesting or frustrating happened in relation to it. When I tell him about my work, I give him the simplified story but him being a strange one, he asks for all the nitty gritty details.
I think you should tell him stories of things you found interesting or aggravating about your workday, not the general day to day things. If the story is about the work you are doing, give him the simplified version and if he wants more, he'll ask the questions ;)
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reader, Dorothy Dix +, writes (9 March 2013):
Hi there. It's not like you are trying to shut him out, because he shares with you about his job - which is nice.
When he asks you questions about your day at work, he probably doesn't really need any nitty gritty detailed story about it, just more about the people you work with and their personalities, etc.
Or, something funny someone at your work said, for instance.
As an idea of what to say to him about your work day, just take a mental note of what sort of information he shares with you about his job.
It's probably rather simple and interesting and light as well.
So what I am saying here is, nothing too complex or technical which might confuse him.
How he describes his day, would certainly be a good indicator of what type of things he would want to hear from you.
You both work with other people, so there is something in common straight up.
And jobs are about people really, aren't they?
So just keep it simple and light, and if he asks you more about what you do, well then tell him.
He knows what your company does, so will probably ask questions to do with that in some way.
If he asks you about - "how was your day?" - he may be simply asking - "did you have a good day?" - and - "did everything go well today?"
He wouldn't really be too interested in a company organisational chart, just simple but interesting things about what your company does and what you do.
It's possible that you are thinking too much into all this, which is just a normal part of life.
"How was your day?" - just means that.
Like - "did you have a good day or a bad day?"
Nothing more complex than that, I'm sure.
Just let things flow. It's not as difficult as you think.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2013): Oh boy! I've never known any of what my boyfriends do haha! I go to the office parties, I mingle with their co workers, and I cannot tell you but vaguely what their job entails. Not a clue. Oh and he's probably not asking for details and for you to spell out the corporate jargon. He just wants to know if your day was good or bad. Men are simple creatures. And don't assume he doesn't "get" what you are talking about. That's condescending. Imagine if you were married to a pilot? Or a neurosurgeon? Or a rocket scientist? You wouldn't want them brushing you off cause you just "don't get it." C'mon, that's not nice. Keep it simple. Tell him all about your coffe break or the fun lunch you had with your co workers. I mean no job is all work and no play. Let's be realistic, there are plenty of things you could share with him about your work day that is totally relatable for him and anybody for that matter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2013): Everything. He's a banker and I'm a nurse practitioner. If he doesn't understand, I explain in detail. He's become very knowledgeable about medicine, nursing and the politics that I deal with everyday. Likewise, he explains to me things about his job, the economy, etc that I used to have no clue about. I've learned a great deal from him too.
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