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writes:hello, im here out of concern, i have a really loving and awsome gf. we have great communication skills and it is really easy for us to talk and be together...but for the past month i feel that she has receeded into a form of depression..due to family issues..and she wont talk to me about it.. i know my limit so i dont bring it up of bother her about it,, but she wont tell me...i understand that she needs to keep things private...i truly do! but i just want her to get better or atleast tell me something so i can help and be supportive! what should i do.. i love this girl with all my heart..but i feel that she is not focusing on her life now,,but rather her past...and it is begining to effect things around her, and our relationship in small ways...i want this to get better so this doesnt turn into a problem for us...but mainly for her... thanxs so much!
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reader, Wonderer1  +, writes (10 January 2011):
yeah i understand man my girl is going to post pardom after having our beautiful baby boy i try to ask whats wrong too but she wont talk to me i don't think she ready to talk yet or she just not use to having a guy caring for her as much as i do but you know all i can do is just wait for now hopefully she will start opening up to me sum more she opened up lil by lil but than she shuts me out again so i just have to wait
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): Hello, well I suffered depression when I was about 17 years old, due to some family related issues, and my bf, like you, showed concern. My hearts hurt so bad, I didn't want him to have to feel that way too, so i kept it inside. I eventualy told him what was going on and he was just there to listen. Thats all you can really do, is wait and when she's ready listen. Although some people might think us girls love to talk about our feelings, alot of the time it can be hard though, so jusy give her some time, and when she's ready, listen, and comfort her, its all you can do. I must say, your a very sweet boy for showing concern for her, just remeber love her as much as you can, thats what brought me out of my depression, maybe thats what she needs, is someone to be loving and talk to. =] Best of luck.
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reader, youngandconfused90 +, writes (13 March 2008):
 Just let her know that you are there. Of course you don't want to pressure her to talk but she is probably wanting to talk it out with you, she's just nerves and afraid of your reaction. When you guys are alone together give her a big hug and while she is in your arms tell her that when she is ready to talk about it you are there and then give her a kiss on the head. Thats all you can really do and when she is ready she'll talk. If you open up to her about what you are thinking and feeling she will feel more comfortable with you and most likely share her thoughts.
Good luck!
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reader, Gena Bullock +, writes (13 March 2008):
 First of all, if you two have great communication skills, then it should be easy for her to talk to you about anything at any time. Second, could it be something that's happened at home that has demeaned her sexually--a stepfather, perhaps or are the parents fighting, or is there some affair going on that she has found out about that she can't break the news to her other parent? These are just a few possibilities that are so personal in nature that she may not know where to begin. If she is this depressed, then maybe you need to talk to a school counselor yourself about the issue and get professional advice before prying further. Keep in touch!
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reader, peaches83  +, writes (13 March 2008):
 As many people will tell you im sure, all you can do it give her time. Try to not let it show that it bothers you as hard as that may seem.
Make the time that you spend with her happy and stress free and let her know how much you love her and appreciate her.
In her time when she feels ready she will share whats going on in her head with you.
Just be there for her the best you can.
Peaches
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