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writes:Hey there im 15 ive not had a proper boyfriend (and still don't) but i really want to have sex ino i obviously can't but im so down about it :( help me pleaseeee x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008): i just wanna say take it easy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): im about 14 and 10 months(basically 15)
and i would suggest getting a vibrator.
i odnt have a bf either and i've always craved...
maybe not sex with another person
but just penetration
masturbation basically.
it makes me feel better.
it releases stress.
and it will help you in making the decision
to have sex with another person.
i think you should experiment with yourself.
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reader, SmashedBrain  +, writes (14 March 2008):
Do not "EXPERIMENT", you are too young and way more bad will come of it than you think. Honestly. Not a good idea. This IS an important issue feeling you are experiencing because for the first time in your life you are becoming more aware of sexuality. There is no rush.....so really, don't.
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reader, HoneyBee25 +, writes (13 March 2008):
 Hi Sweetie
Please don't rush into having sex just because you want to. This should be a special experience for you and more epsecially with the right person. The is just a hormonal stage you're going through, this usually happens with all girls your age. When I was your age I felt exactly the same way and I went and did it and then had an unplanned pregnancy at 16. I am not saying this will happen to you too, but I'm just trying to make you aware of the consequences. Please just enjoy being young and not rush into adult things as before you know it, years will have passed and you might have so many regrets just like me. If you really must have sex, then please remember to use protection - not just to prevent pregnancy but also STD's okay sweetie. Take care!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): Get a dildo, you cant get pregnant or any STDs from it, and it will give you a chance to release some of your frustration without having sex with some one and all the emotions that go with that. You will still be a virgin but not as frustrated.
I know a lot of ppl wont agree with me, but this might really be your best bet, no emotional heartbreak and no babies or diseases... It will make you feel better, and make you better at sex when you have it with a guy for the first time ;-)
:-D hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): Explore...
By that, I don't mean with guys...or girls. Whatever your preference is.
But maybe look into masturbation? Pornographic images? Just education too. When I was your age, I LOVED learning about sexual positions, ect. because I too really wanted to have sex.
Toys are also A LOT of fun to learn about.
Anyways, I know it sucks, but you have to wait *BIG SIGH*. I went and had sex with some lame-ass dirt-bag, and I regret it. What's worse, it matters to my boyfriend now, who was a virgin before me. He feels that I just "gave myself away" while he waited for me.
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reader, SmashedBrain +, writes (13 March 2008):
you should READ. lol Honestly you should, and read books about women and there personal experience with losing their virginity. Then you should read books about cultural views on virginity. Some cultures greatly value it. So just do some biblical research on it and then come to your own conclusion and thoughts. It might change your mind. Because honestly, why fall into that statistic of teens your age having sex. If you are wanting to know more about it there are different ways of doing it without having sex. ;)
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reader, Yos  +, writes (13 March 2008):
 Sex can be really really good, and it can be really really bad.
Sex is great when it's with someone that loves you, and you love them, and where you both respect each other. Meaning a proper boyfriend. Someone who treats you well and cares about your feelings.
Sex is terrible when you think the person cares about you, but then you realize they just wanted to get off. You end up feeling cheap, used, and that feeling can stay with you for ages, years even sometimes. Sometimes it never goes away.
Having sex stirs up A LOT of complicated emotions. That's the bit that they don't show you on TV. The reason people recommend waiting for sex is not because you can't physically have it (you can have sex from a very early age), it's because you're not emotionally ready to handle the feelings that come with having sex. The result, as you can read here on this site over and over, can be regret, shame, and unhappiness.
So by all means plan on having sex. But for your benefit, wait til you've found a good guy who really does care about you. You'll find that you'll have good sex (rather than bad), and you'll feel good about it and yourself afterwards.
Trust me and the other aunts here on this one, the reason every adult tells you this same thing is for a very simple reason: it's true.
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reader, youngandconfused90  +, writes (13 March 2008):
 I was the same way when i was your age! I just wanted to have sex i felt i was ready and that i needed to do it right then and there.
So i did. I had the opportunity and i went for it and till this day i regret it!
I wish i would have waited for someone special to share it with. You can only lose your virginity once and you can never get it back. There is no harm in waiting till you are ready, just enjoy being young. Stop trying to grow up so fast. When its the right time and place you'll know.
Good luck and i hope you wait, its worth it!
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reader, Kathleeenie +, writes (13 March 2008):
 Why are you so desperate to have sex? peer pressure?
trust me its not as great as everyone make it out to be. Alot of people are dissapointed the first time, me being one of them. Eventhough i did wait till i was in a secure and loving relationship.
I regretted having sex so soon, it just complicates things.
Its not kool to have sex, especially with just a random person. I'd advise you wait until you find some special.
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reader, peaches83 +, writes (13 March 2008):
 Wanting sex can be a tricky buissness, not only are you not old enough due to the law been at the age limit of 16 but also of the fact that is it a case of you want it that bad you are willing to go and get it from anyone and any how?
You need to address the reasons on why you want it.
Is it a case of your friends are doing it and you want to fit in or is it the case of you just feel ready?
I would take some time and think about this in some great thought.
Sex is described as an act of love and ok maybe not veryone does it for that reason. There are a lot of things to think of what you get to the point of 'doing it'.
It would be nice to find the right person to do it with and also think of the precautions.
STD'S and then preagancy.
Dont rush into something ou may regret in the future.
All the best
Peaches
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