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*icabeth
writes:Hi For the past week I have been texting this guy I really like. He was the one that sought me out. He asks me to meet him I say ye and we will sort a day to meet cos we both hav busy jobs. We stayed up till 3 talking on Tuesday night Wednesday morning getting to know each other and we both knew we really liked each other . But since that day I only have had 3 messages over the last 3 days and it's just hi babe at work text u later and he never does is he blowing me or not interested in me or am I just paranoid please help !! Thank you for reading xx
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reader, Hnk +, writes (24 January 2015):
 Hey
Well, I suggest you meet up for a coffee and try to meet more in person than talking over texts. I know it's tough to meet often but my experience always had been bad with texting unless the girl was too much interested. (Moderately interested and it can blow it up)
I have realised that texting usually isn't a very good way to know anyone . It starts on very strong but it slowly dies down to nothing. You think you are actually knowing the person but in real you are liking the idea and accepting everything that is being portrayed from other's opinion and perceived and accepted from yours, honest or not.
In your case, he's still trying so he's still interested so you don't need to worry about that. I suggest meet him more in person and take things slowly. When you know a person over a short span of time, even the smallest things make very big of doubts in other's mind which can kill the attraction completely. The chances are multiplied to infinte over texting.
No he isn't blowing cold, he just seems busy. Don't rely too much on texts because when you talk in person, you make actual memories which builds up attraction.
In honesty, I'm currently chasing a girl which started off very very strong and we felt like soulmates. We would say and feel the same things same moments and everything we shared felt right. It felt like we'd end up in a relationship in a week. It felt magical.
Good thing about it, everything was done in person. However, lately we tried texting and it worked two three days and then whoosh, I felt I was smothering her and felt she's not any more interested. ( You can't read emotions from texts, you read too much into choice of words used and I'm not sure anything I'm assuming is true or not)
So I held back on texting and decided to only make plans on texts to meet her. I ask, how she's doing and little information what's she's up to. Nothing more. Funny thing, before she was the one chasing and now I'm the one after we tried texting.
I can tell you , trying not to text has worked out well but I know when we meet again, it'll catalyse things forward than with texts which took it backwards.
I know I stressed a lot on avoiding texting but I think that's true. Know the person more by meeting them and I think it's fine to text. It's also fine to meet and text in almost equal ratios. Relying on text completely, that's a no!
Do tell me what happens here and inbox me if you need to ask anything more . Good luck !
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reader, Pureflame  +, writes (24 January 2015):
You're being paranoid dear. Relax. It's just been a week. And you both have jobs, so you're bound to be busy.
Keep yourself occupied. Go out n meet some friends.
Stop checking your phone to see if he messaged. Take your time and spend some quality time with yourself. It's gonna be fine :)
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