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writes:I have been with my girlfriend for a year now, but the lack of conversation between us is starting to make me consider whether or not to take the relationship any further. To add to this a girl at my works party, but who I don't work directly with, gave me her number and told me she was interested. We get on great, but although I never used her number I cannot help thinking about what could be and think about her.My girlfriend is content to sit in silence. Car journey's and sitting in restaurants is tedious and it is always me who ends up making observations and asking questions to make conversation. Another example is when she visits my house, where upon her arrival she proceeds to check facebook for the next 5-10 minutes and doesn't even realise that she has not said one word to me since her arrival. When I ask her what the goss is, or what she has been up to she just says "nothing". She gives me nothing to work with and I just end up wondering why she has bothered coming round. I would sooner rather sit on my own of an evening than sit in an awkward silence with someone. When I have challenged her about it she just says that she thinks I don't want to be with her anymore and just keeps quiet because she doesn't know what to say. Maybe she's right????
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2015): may be it's you and may it's her, anyhow it looks like you don't want to be with her anymore.
if you want to try and work it out, tell her exactly what bothers you. that she come in and check facebook and doesn't talk to you. May that's how she's always been butyou were ok with it.may you didnot see it before/ may be she changed.
Please don't cheat on her, break up with her and date someone else if you don't want to work this out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2015): I'm in a similar situation, although, I'm the girl who met the guy at the works party.
I think that you should think about moving on and give the other girl a chance if you get on well with her. Its clear that your girlfriend knows there's something wrong and it doesn't sound like she's making much of an effort so why should you do all the work?
Move on...or you will regret it later when the girl from work has moved on and the situation hasn't changed with you and your girlfriend.
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reader, Pureflame  +, writes (24 January 2015):
Do you or do you not want to be with her? You need to figure this out yourself. It's possible that you have let the spark die. If you still want to be with her, try winning her back. If you don't give off d vibe of being interested, then you can't expect the other to b interested. That applies to the both of you.
This happens when you get too used to being around each other.
Everyone needs that little excitement. And everyone wants to feel wanted. If you make her feel that way, she will make you feel that too. Be spontaneous. Don't make it the regular monotonous actions n plans.
From the sound of her, her doubts are coming from your apparent lack of interest. And you seem to feel she has lost interest. All you really need is to spice things up and some change.
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